Intro- another sad story.

queenalexandra

Hi all.  I'm kind of sick of telling everyone in real life how I'm doing just fine. I figured, I could join you all and be a little more honest, or at least lurk and see that others are in the same boat.  I was told on Friday 1/21 at my 12 week u/s that the baby had stopped developing at about 8 weeks. I had no symptoms of m/c, so this was a very unwelcome surprise. It didn't help that the Dr started crying and ran out of the room.

I foolishly drank a whole bottle of wine and bawled my eyes out for hours on Friday night, which left me with a terrible hangover. I wouldn't recommend finding solace in a bottle after teetotaling for that long.

I had a D&C yesterday and found it to be a huge relief.  Having had no signs of m/c and no end in sight was just too much for me to take on. 

Anyway, pleased to meet you all.  I hope all of our stories become much happier that they are today.

corndog8

So sorry for your loss.     I have a similar story - Went for Ultrasound on1/18 at 12w2d, thought all was going to be fine and there was no heartbeat and baby had seemed to stop growing at about 9wk.  We were crushed and I have been heartbroken since.  I had no miscarriage symptoms, had D&C on 1/20, 2 days later.  I felt the same way, how could I possibly go on another who knows waiting... the thought was horrible and too much. 

The woman on here helped me feel better and are understanding.  It's nice to not feel alone.  

Hugs to you

tiffany119

Wow - I'm really sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you!

PiperS

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort here like I have. I also put on strong face for everyone IRL. You don't have to do that, but if you are like me than it is difficult not to. I have a hard time letting people comfort me and I also want to make everyone else feel better so I try to convince them I am ok. It has been 3 weeks for me and I am still having a hard time accepting it.

I also drank a bottle of wine the night I found out. I still have a couple glasses when I feel like it. Sometimes the hangover is worth it for the numbness the wine gives me GL, sweetie. Time does heal. I feel more like myself everyday, but I know that I am forever changed from this experience.

MDT082010

I am so sorry for you loss. I just joined the board on Friday and I have found it very comforting. 

ziggy23213

I'm so sorry for your loss; I hope you find comfort from this board.

angelicalopez29

I'm sorry for your loss, but...  your doctor started crying?

queenalexandra

Yeah, Dr. started crying.  She wasn't my regular Dr, just the one on staff at the u/s clinic.  She was probably in her mid 60s so you'd think she has seen this situation at least a million times. She did mention that she had a daughter my age with the same name, so maybe it was a little to close to home or something.  She suggested that I "take plenty of time to heal" before we try again.  My reply was that I'm 37 and I don't have time to "take time".  That's when she really busted up. She called me about 8 that night to make sure I was OK and she was obviously tearing up again. I don't know what the deal was.  I can't say that it bugged me all that much to see someone show a little emotion.  It's just something I've never experienced.

AustinBride06

It's interesting how many of our stories are so very similar.  I drank two glasses of wine on Thursday with food (the day I found out about my missed m/c) and threw up in the restaurant restroom.  Ironically, the only nausea I had the entire pregnancy.

Froggy76

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I hope you can find some support on this board.