Just RELAX(long rambling rant)

Laurakat81

I know there are multiple rants each day regarding the stupid comments people make but it's my turn to vent. You'd think I would be used to them by now but I find they just make me angrier and angrier as time goes on. Well meaning, maybe? But I'd still like to tell people to "go eff yourself!" With a bright smile of course. So this women I don't even know tells me she tried for three years to get pregnant and I should just relax and it will happen! I think I'm even angrier about the fact that it's someone who claims to have had fertility issues. I mean was relaxation what got her pregnant. Do some women just get stupid after kids and suddenly forget their own struggles?! She says my body can sense my stress and that is why I'm not pregnant! Which is funny because I thought it was the condoms I've been using for the last five months that were keeping me from getting knocked up! I guess I can throw those out because apparently my stressed out body could save us the hassle! Woohoo! And then of course she tells me to stop obsessing and focus on being happy. God will give us a baby when the time is right! My first issue with that statement: who says I'm not happy with my life, it's the baby making part that has my panties in a wad (;)everything else is just fine thank you! Secondly: which is it? Relaxation or God that will get me knocked up? And last: I'd like to think I'm in good with the Big Man upstairs but it really ticks me off when someone tells me He doesn't think the time is right yet! But He thinks the time is right for the 15 year old girl I see every day? Yeah right! Get over yourself! Who are you to tell me what God wants for me? I want a healthy child, plain and simple. I will continue to "stress" about it for as long as it takes. What this chick calls stress I call being proactive. Ok vent over! Thanks for letting me get it out! I'm now going back to stres... I mean getting ready for bed!

Laurakat81

Grr! Paragraphs disappeared on me again! Anyone know how to solve this on the iPad?

Tapatio

You would think if that woman had fertility issues she would understand how stressful and heartbreaking this whole ttc business can be. Some people don't have filters when they NEED one. I'm sorry you had to listen to all of that garbage spewing from her ignorant mouth. I hope you feel better after venting a bit ((hugs)).

LaraGaudess

Why people think saying something like 'God will decide when you can have a baby' is supposed to make you feel better is just baffling. I believe in God, but like you said, seeing a 15 year old KU is a bit of a head scratcher. God thinks that person will be a better parent than me right now, at this very moment? Hmmm...

People are idiots. I guess we should all just 'relax' and get over it... *eye roll*

 

Carolee

I hate that saying too.  Feel free to vent!

twistedmetal

(((hug)))

people really suck sometime! 

tiffany119

I feel like a lot of people that say that to me are saying code for "I just can't be burdened with your problems right now" and that really makes me mad. Just makes me want to tell them to get over themselves and help out someone in need. If you're going to try to encourage someone with Christian advice, then minister to people like Christ did. Don't pretend like you know God's will for someone else's life, cause its just not possible.

I'm sorry you couldn't find support from someone who should have been able to understand what you're going through. And you're right.."relaxing" won't help a baby stick.  Big hugs to you!

opallover

I am so sorry that you had to listen to that ridonkulous crap.

(((hugs)))

jr63_2020

I'd be completely frustrated too! I would have loved it if you said "I thought it was the condoms that were keeping me from getting pregnant!" If she's going to bring up things that are nine of her business, she deserves to feel awkward!!

MandaS08

I'm sorry! I think if we all had a dollar for each insensitive thing people say to us then we'd all be rich.  People think they are helping, but fail to think about what they are really saying.   (((HUGS)))

haziedaze

I think the only people who say "relax and it will happen" are people who are relaxed because it DID happen FOR THEM. I hate that... ((HUGS))

Eris-Alexis

I have to say, I think that was one of the best stupid comment rants I have ever read.  Screw stupid people.  

Laurakat81

Thanks ladies! Even though I already knew you guys would agree it is still nice to hear I'm not crazy to have these feelings!

 

 

jertie

haziedaze:

I think the only people who say "relax and it will happen" are people who are relaxed because it DID happen FOR THEM. I hate that... ((HUGS))

This.  It's absolutely brilliant (and very insightful!).  Loved your rant btw!