When you are a SAHM and YOU get sick :(

MommyMar2010

My LO is about 11 months and since she's been born, I've never gotten sick or even had a cold.  Now I'm totally sick, and feeling awful--finding it VERY difficult to do what I do in a day, take care of my daughter, get everything done around the house and cook dinner.........without being a TOTAL b*tch by the end of the day!!  Going on day 2 of feeling awful and I just want someone to take care of me right now and DH isn't the sick sympathy type

Sorry just needed to vent!!!

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

So, if you are sick and feel that you can't adequately take care of her, he won't take off?  I guess I don't get the reasoning for that.  I mean, a cold is one thing, but sick to where you feel you can't do what you need to is totally different.

mrsfirefly

I've had two miserable colds since DD was born, and DH went to work, but I didn't make dinner or do much around the house.  If I was really sick, DH would take off work for the day.  Funny enough, the only time I've been "really sick"  DH was out of town, so I just had to deal with it like a single mom would do, I guess.

Stacyc625

you just need to lower expectations and rest as much as you can. taking care of baby is priority- everything else gets back burned.

Water_Wedding

MalloryRae:

DH and I have an understanding that if I get sick, my only job is to make sure DS and I survive the day.  He's in charge of dinner, whether that's McD's or ramen noodles.  (He's not allowed to cook.  He ruins my stuff every time!)  If I was so sick that I couldn't take care of DS, DH would have to take off work or else help me find a babysitter.

 This is how it would work here too. There's no way I would do anything more than minimal care taking.  Would your husband go to work, do bedtime for the kids and all his other chores at home if he were sick? I bet he'd just try to go to work and you'd need to pick up the slack.

 Hope you feel better soon. 

sassy_mommy

Just try to make sure your LO is taken care of while you take care of yourself.  The longer you try to do it all, the longer it will probably take for you to get well.  I'm not a big TV fan, but I feel there's nothing wrong with putting in a few videos for LO or watching extra television while you lay on the couch to rest up.  I would also forget about cooking and chores that can wait until later.  I've been sick about 3 times since December (quite a bit for me) and many things went to the wayside....no guilt here.  Hope you get better soon.

ArcticFox

I had the stomach bug once .. it was horrific.  DH couldn't come home because he had a really important meeting (like a board meeting.. wasn't going to get cancelled last minute for him).

I have flashbacks to sitting on the toilet, barfing into the bathtub rinse pitcher (sick both ways, if you get the idea.. sorry if TMI) and two kids whining and crying and pulling on me.  It was so awful.  There were times too I have had sinus infections and other things and had to just persevere because DH was busy.  It really stinks.. I'm sorry

ali-1411

I don't do anything when I'm sick.  We lay on the couch and watch tv all day.  DH took off once when I had the flu but usually I just manage best I can.

 

gatogrrl

Awww, hang in there.  Hope you feel better soon!

MrsCAA

i just take care of LO and myself and nothing else gets done. And then i call my mommy to come help when she gets off of work for a few (4) hours. (DH works 12 hours days + drive time)

jenny1980

I work p/t, but I was pretty sick a couple weeks ago on my "at home" days (Mon & Tues) and I basically let everything in the house go to hell and just kept DD fed, changed and happy. I let her watch TV which I NEVER do and basically slugged around on the couch and napped when she napped. There's no way I cooked dinner or did housework and you shouldn't either.

And if you're sick to the point of not being able to take care of your DD, your DH needs to man up and call in sick or help you find someone to watch her while you recover.

 

healthynut

Oh yuck - it's the worst.  I had two toddlers with exploding diarhea and I had it coming from both ends.  The worst.  DH had to go to work and I ended up just setting up shop on blankets.  We watched TV all day and any food for the LO's was given right on the blankets.  They could really only have bananas and toast.  There was one time that I had a fever that DH had to call out of work b/c I just could not keep anything down to bring the fever down and I was seriously ill.  But as pp said, single moms do it, so I suppose I would've had to if I was a single mom. 

Being sick as a SAHM is tough b/c even when you get a moment to rest, it's over quickly and you're never really off.  I hope you feel better and DH gives some help. 

PearlieGirl'sMom

I am sorry and I truly understand! When DH is sick, the world ends.. when I am sick, I have to get over it and get on.

I remember being SO sick when DD was about the age yours is.. I had the stomach flu and could not stop throwing up and DH was trucking and gone. Oh, it was awful! All I could really do was make sure DD was in a safe place and go do my business. Then, I'd check on her and muster the energy to make her some food.

Just try to do the minimal and make sure LO is safe and OK (it is fine to entertain with the TV).

Feel better!!

MommyMar2010

Thanks for all the support ladies!  I managed to get my mom to come over for an hour so I could go to the doctor this morning---of course here in the northeast we are getting yet another 8-12" so she had to leave quickly to get home before it got really bad out, but I was grateful for the time I had to "rest" while she was here!

DH came home early to help, so I got to put my feet up for a while which was good--and I took your advice and said "sorry, dinner is takeout tonight, and nothing got done around here but taking care of the baby!"  That alone made me feel better so I could just rest when the baby was sleeping!!

Thanks again for all the great responses