How long are you waiting?

babyonmind

So, I'm almost done with my natural MC and I'm for sure going to wait until I get my next real period for us to start trying again. I want to make sure everything's gotten out of there (though fortunately HCG levels never got above 30), and I want to be able to date things this time around - I still haven't gotten a normal period after getting off BC...as I got pregnant right away.

Anyways, I've done a lot of reading...and I get waiting one cycle, but I don't really see the point in waiting longer than that. There's actually evidence that you'd be missing out on a very "fertile" window of opportunity !! Hence my impatience.

So, how long are you gals waiting? And why?

MDT082010

I just miscarried on Friday....so I'm not really sure what I'm doing. I keep going back and forth. Sometimes I want to TTC as soon as I'm "clear" another part of me wants to wait 6 months.....

 We took a very casual approach and it worked 4th cycle off the pill.....I did track my CM and did take EPO. 

 I think this time I want to chart. I bought TCOYF a few months ago and BBT so I think I might try charting this go around. 

I was on BC for 10 years to control endometriosis and now that I'm off the pill I don't want to get back on it....However due to the endo I don't want to be off the pill and not trying because I worry about the endo coming back. I really want my take home baby, but after the m/c I'm scared about being pregnant again.....

AustinBride06

We're not going gung-ho with the TTC right away (after 1 normal period).  We're going to not prevent and I'm going to chart and we'll just see how it goes.  I'm sure we'll get progressively more proactive about it as time goes on.  I just didn't want to put too much pressure on ourselves right away and I don't know how I'll feel about having sex at that time anyway.  Right now, I want to, but I don't think I could... if that makes sense.

nekillo

I'm emotionally drained and financially strapped after this miscarriage, we were only 3 months in and between the pre-workup and post -BS after insurance we ended up paying over 1000.  I'm still depressed, and so I actually went against my OB's recommendation and asked to go back on the pill (after my 2nd normal cycle).  Possibly when DH and I recover our savings a bit we will try again, but after this experience I am really bitter and don't want to try again.

afrate1

I too am not yet done with my natural MC. I go tomorrow and have my levels tested again and have an appointment with the OB Thursday. It is so up in the air. I got preg the first month we tried. I am unsure of so many things for this next time. I know I will wait at least one full cycle before we try again.

I kind of feel like waiting to recover from all the ups and downs this last two months has been for us. I have always believed in being prepared...except I wasn't prepared to miscarry.  

 

vlong4

I was able to pass everything naturally. Saw my OB/GYN today. He told me to wait one cycle. I asked him if by any chance something happened before the one cycle, would everything be okay? His response was my levels are below pregnancy, my uterus and everything else is back to normal. So if we didn't use protection, don't get worried and all should be okay. I live in NYC and go to a highly rated doctor who handles high risk pregnancies (am considered high risk because a blood clot was discovered during my first pregnancy at 34 weeks) at one of the best hospitals in the country. I fully trust his advice. We have decided not to chart, not to take any ovulation tests and just let things happen as they happen.

angechester

I experienced a miscarriage back in October---actually I didn't "naturally" miscarry but we went for my 12 wk ultrasound and at some point the baby's heart had stopped beating It was very discouraging to go that long (we'd just started telling our family the week before) and then be that disappointed...however, that being said I was quite eager to try again after my D&C. My doctor suggested waiting out 2 cycles and I was very lucky getting my period exactly 28 days after my D&C and then 28 days after that period. So we tried again and magically our first month trying we conceived!! I'm now 6 wks and 4 days and couldn't be more terrified! I'm scared of getting excited and being let down again....especially since somehow we managed to have our due date on our 2nd Wedding Anniversary! Couldn't plan that if we tried! I honestly think you'll "feel" ready to try again and that's when you're body will also be ready too! Good Luck everyone!

DancinGirl917

We are likely going to start trying right away (after my second cycle).  The thing that is causing me a lot of anxiety is that if/when I do become pregnant again, I am going to be HUGE worry wart.  I am also terrified of it happening again.  I want to be pregnant so badly but I don't want to go through the physical or emotional pain again.

BritanyV

I had a D&C in November and was told to wait until after my 1st af arrived.   We started trying again that cycle after 1st AF, we are now on our 2nd cycle of trying since D&C.

spacedolphin11

My D&C is tomorrow, so I have no idea how long how it'll take for my body to recover from that. As long as I get doctor ok, I'm not going back on birth control afterward. I guess we'll just have to see what happens!

babyonmind

Thanks for sharing guys. And yeah, I'm a huge worry wart to begin with...I already had fears and anxieties about not being able to get pregnant, so now it's going to be about STAYING pregnant.

 

Temp614258375007293

Wait- what?  I had methotrexate about 2 weeks ago, and due to the internal stress my doctor said no sex for a month after the shot, but that I could TTC after a full normal cycle- so we figured sometime in March.  Obviously the shots inhibited my folic acid absorbtion, but thought that after a month of being back on prenatals I'd be fine - what makes you say 3 months? Eeek

mrs-smith2b

AustinBride06:

We're not going gung-ho with the TTC right away (after 1 normal period).  We're going to not prevent and I'm going to chart and we'll just see how it goes.  I'm sure we'll get progressively more proactive about it as time goes on.  I just didn't want to put too much pressure on ourselves right away and I don't know how I'll feel about having sex at that time anyway.  Right now, I want to, but I don't think I could... if that makes sense.

 

I feel very similar.  I'm not preventing anything form happening, but I am also not pressuring myself to take temps every morning and have sex on ovulation days with the sole purpose of getting KU.  DH thinks the only way I'm going to get back to myself is with a healthy pregnancy, but I don't know if my heart is quite ready yet.   He's probably right, and as PP said, I am sure we too will get progressively proactive with time. 

heroesforsale

I'm in the same boat.  How do you find the strength to start trying again after this?  Ugh.

babyonmind

For me, it's just easier to move on than to dwell. What happened happened and I don't think it'll ever be something I can look back on without feeling very sad. But I can't change it. I actually feel readier for a 2nd MC than I did for the 1st...what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!