Advice for a worry wart

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Hi Ladies,

 

I'm currently 14w with fraternal twins.  Obviously I'm thrilled and happy with being pregnant, however I've been kind of panicking and worrying myself over all the complications that come with a twin pregnancy.  I never knew that being pregnant with twins could cause very early PTL or have a higher chance for incompetent cervix, etc.  I want to enjoy this pregnancy, but I can't.  I would be devastated if anything ever happened.  I can't bring myself to read any posts with any kind of negative title (a loss) because it just upsets me too much.  On occasion I'll be reading a post online about something random, and somehow some woman slips in her response how she was pg with twins and lost one/both, etc.  I don't even want to read any 'expecting twin books' because I fear that they will start talking about all the things that can go wrong.

Did you ladies feel the same when you were pregnant?  Is there anything that made you feel calmer and more comfortable?  

I'm seeing a MFM.  My next u/s is at 16w for cervical length, then at 20w for anatomy scan. 

iamrobyn

After I got over the shock of learning we were having twins (@22w) I posted on this board too. I knew nothing about twins or twin pregnancies and found myself completely lost. The ladies here reccomended I check out Dr. Luke's book When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads and that has helped me out immensely. I'm still a nervous, and I don't like to read posts about the scary things that can/have happened even though my heart goes out to those women.  I say the best advice is to educate yourself but not overdo it  

 Congrats! 

monkski

All you can do is follow your doctor's advice and do the best you can. Definitely read dr. luke's book. A lot of MoM's have great pregnancies with no complications, but it's better to be educated about the possibilities. It's more common to hear the horror stories, but there are likely more positive experiences than bad.

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knowledge is power - and Dr. Luke's book will give you the most knowledge about how you can try to prevent anything going wrong- get it, read it- and follow it - that's the most you can do for your babies.  Most of us on here followed her book (not the diet in detail, but the weight gain rec's and eating lots of dairy and protein).

worry is normal- and avoiding posts you know will be upsetting is normal (i had to do that for quite a while myself).... but freaking out is not going to help you. the worrying gets WORSE when the children are out of your belly and running around- so you have to find ways to deal with it - for me, it's lots of prayer, and knowledge.

katsblaze

First take a deep breath.  I know it's easier said then done, but try not to worry. Your body doesn't need the extra stress.  I agree with PP's, check out Dr. Luke's book.  It set my mind at ease, and helped me tremendously during my pregnancy.  It is good to have the knowledge of what could happen.  Don't dwell on those as many women have very healthy and uneventful twin pregnancies. 

Kittycat196

I felt the same way. I bought Dr Luke's book but didn't follow it. I just made sure I ate healthy. took my prenatals, drank a lot of water and followed what my doctor said. Rested when I needed to, don't try to push yourself to do things if you are tired. You just do the best you can and keep away from reading negative things.