I am one that truly believes that potty training is 200% up to the child. I show my kids the tools, talk about it, etc but don't push them. They go to preschool and see the other kids using the potty, they see me and DH using the potty, etc. DD #1 trained at 2 years 9 months - she showed interest starting at around age 2 but it would come and go. When she trained, she night trained first and it took about 3 weeks to be totally trained. DD#2 is a totally different story - at 16 months, she started showing interest and would pee in the potty off and on. Last spring, she was doing great - staying dry a ton but not pooping in the potty. We tried undies for 2 months over the summer and in the beginning she was dry almost all the time but would never poop in the potty. Towards the end of the 2 months, she stopped using the potty 100% so we went to pull-ups as she just had lost all interest and was having accidents all the time (at daycare FT by the way). We did pull-ups so she would still have the ability to go on her own when she wants to but still using them as you would a diaper. Over the fall, she would, go between wanting to use the potty to no interest but still never pooping. In December, she begged for undies again so we gave it another try and she did great for about 3 days and even pooped in the potty but then annouced that she was done and went back to refusing to poop in the potty and not peeing in the potty most of the time. She will be 3 in March and is now telling me she will be trained when she turns 3.
I know going back and forth with the pull-ups is not good but she will not use the potty unless she wants to and its not fair to daycare to have her having accidents all the time and honeslty, it is way to stressful. She is a very strong-willed child and while we all know she could be trained, she won't be until she is good and ready. She knows when she has to go but still refuses to poop on the potty most of the time and pee is about 50/50.
I know it will happen in time and when she decided she is ready, it will be done and that will be that but I am so tired of changing her diapers - I think I would be fine if I didn't know that this is just a power thing for her (and I'm trying to not think about this as she is winning). I try hard to not push her at all and try not to even ask if she wants to go since If I ask, the answer will be no but if I just let it be, she will go more often than not.
Anyone else in this type of situation? And I'm not really looking for advice or anything - I've been through potty training, I don't belive in the 3 day training thing as I truely believe in the thought of kids will train when they are ready and I can't train her to do. Just frustrated at this point and really more tired of spending the money and cleaning her poopy little tush!