Is it Pee-on or Peon?

Daisy77

Because I need a job title to put on my business cards.

"We" own a small trucking business with a snow plowing business on the side.  For tax purposes, everything is in DH's name as a sole proprietorship.  I have been involved with it from the beginning and take care of the the bookwork end: invoicing customers, keeping track of employee information, payroll, filing quarterly taxes and all the proper forms (yearly as well), learning all I need to learn so we don't wind up in jail, etc. I don't receive an actual paycheck, I just don't have to clear purchases with DH (except non-essential stuff over $100 but we both do that).  I also take care of our personal books/bills and make sure we put and keep something in savings.

Here's my issue: I can't "do" anything.  I went to sign us up for the service to prepare and submit W-2s online and used my name as I'm the one who does it (It didn't ask for legal owner, just if I have permission to prepare/submit for the business and I do).  Everything was all signed up (they provided me with a user name) and then it asks me my title/position.  Crap.  DH was all annoyed and said I should have used him instead because I'm technically not an employee.  That really bugged me.  I do so much crap so that HE doesn't have to do it.  If there are any tax issues/clarifications *I'm* the one they'll have to speak to because I'm the one who does it and knows what is going on.  Had they asked for owner, I would have done his info.

I told him I want some clarification.  Am I a "silent" owner?  Am I an employee?  I spend a lot of hours working on this stuff with little to show for it I guess.  I know he wouldn't screw me over if anything happened but I'm sick of being in limbo over what I really am. 

ETA: Realized I didn't ask my question:  Is this something I should fight?   I have learned to pick my battles with this kind of stuff, but this seems to be more serious.  It's not about having a title, it's about having a specific (and acknowledged) role.

nsees

To me, it would be an issue to voice because it's not something thats going to get better on it's own or blow over.  It could in fact get worse and wear on your marriage so yes, I think you should communicate your feels to your H and see what solution you two can come up with.  GL!  (that would really get to me as well if it makes you feel any better)

Daisy77

nsees:

To me, it would be an issue to voice because it's not something thats going to get better on it's own or blow over.  It could in fact get worse and wear on your marriage so yes, I think you should communicate your feels to your H and see what solution you two can come up with.  GL!  (that would really get to me as well if it makes you feel any better)

We definitely need to talk about it more, I just don't know what to say or how to approach it.  It think he looks at it like some people look at getting married: He's content with the way things are, I want the piece of paper.  I understand that listing me as part-owner changes things legally and I don't necessarily need that.  But a little recognition for the (rather large) part I do play would be nice.  Especially when I'm doing it with kids running circles around the kitchen island (my "office") as I work, lol.