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rookiemom

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Ilumine

I have my DD use Miss or Mr (insert name) with all adults.  Because most of the people we actually hang around with have similar parenting beliefs (this is done on purpose), they have their kids use Miss/Mr or specific nicknames.

For one set of twins, I am IlumineB and DD is BEE because my DD would only say BEEE for forever.  This is a sweet NN of both love and respect. 

However, I will also gently remind children, especially those who seem to be on the naughtier side, that I am Miss Ilumine when they address me.  As the adult, I have the manner's right to request how I get addressed.

Zenya

I prefer to be called by my first name but a lot of people around here use Miss First Name which I think is stupid, but whatever.  I dislike the 'use miss/mrs as a mark of respect' by default thing because lots of adults aren't worthy of respect by definition of their age alone.  Plus I think it's silly to think that miss/mrs is automatically respectful.  If only respect were that simple.

littlemermaid

It's a combination of 1 & 2.  Some of our friends have them use Mrs Lastname and some go by Mrs Firstname.  I don't care which one they use as long as it's preceded by Mrs. 

I'm not their friend, I'm their parent's friend so children need to show respect by using Mrs before the first or last name.

femmegem

Zenya:

I prefer to be called by my first name but a lot of people around here use Miss First Name which I think is stupid, but whatever.  I dislike the 'use miss/mrs as a mark of respect' by default thing because lots of adults aren't worthy of respect by definition of their age alone.  Plus I think it's silly to think that miss/mrs is automatically respectful.  If only respect were that simple.

Zenya summed up my thoughts exactly, except that I don't live in an area where too many people use this.

penguingrrl

I will teach my kids to use Ms/Mrs/Mr lastname since many people prefer it, but I hate being called Mrs lastname and would prefer kids use my first name if it's okay with their parents. I have always felt that you can call someone anything in a respectful tone and you can say Ms/Mrs/Mr in a disrespectful tone, so I don't care what they call me provided they say it in a respectful manner. I will likely get used to being called Mrs as my kids get older, but right now we don't know any kids who aren't family so it hasn't really come up yet.

EastCoastBride

I voted 3 but I'm between 3 and 4.  What I mean - we're pretty much on a first name basis w/ our friends kids.  If they wanted their kid to call me "Miss ECB", I'd be fine w/ that.

But we had good friends who started telling their son "this is Mrs. Last name".  Both DH and I were like "Uh, no".

I just don't like the formality of using my last name. NO ONE calls me by my last name (unless it's a "nick name").  If it was someone I really didn't know well at all and probably will have next to no interaction w/ them or their kids, eh, I won't scoff at using my last name.

But if it's anyone I see on a somewhat regular basis, especially GOOD friends, I dont' want to be called by my last name.

There needs to be a little compromise on this.  I don't want to go against what the parents want, but yet I need to be comfortable w/ what I'm being called.

AnnapolisLari

When I introduce the kids to adults, it's always Mr/Mrs Lastname.

There are a couple of exceptions for "Uncle/Aunt" for super close friends, and one friend has a mouthful of a last name and they call her by her first name.