Natural m/c? How long did it take? (pics of DS inside)

kimmie321

How long did it take between diagnosis of m/c and to actually start naturally? how did you emotionally deal with it? I am getting increasingly angry that body has not started anything yet.

Deannabee78

I may not be the best person to answer b/c I m/c'd before I saw the dr.  I think it depends on how far along you are too.  I was very early--at 6weeks and could have lost the baby weeks before.  The actual bleeding for me was like a period.  Some cramping and passed a large clot and light/medium bleeding for me.  Hope it goes quickly for you.  Sorry about your loss.

madiegirl83

I am going on over 2 weeks since my diagnosis and still nothing....  So apparently it can take a while.  I am right there with you being frustrated with my body!  I go back to the MD tomorrow to see what's going on and maybe schedule a D&C...  I am so sorry for your loss and I hope things get started for you, so you can start to heal.  I know how hard it is to wait around like this.....

tonesq

I was almost 10 weeks when we found out 10 days ago. I have had a little spotting today, but nothing heavy enough to see on a pad. Waiting is such a bummer. I hope you don't have to wait much longer.

lasvegasbride08

I found out on 12/30 that I was pregnant and 5 days later I went to work feeling crampy and just kinda blah.  I left work and went to the ER as soon as I noticed bright red blood (I knew right then that something was terribly wrong) and found out later was miscarrying(<--sp.?).  My HCG levels went from 580 prior to 420.  The next morning I had an appointment with my OB/GYN and before doing an exam he told me that I could have a D/C or wait it out.  I chose to wait and for me it happened that evening.  I didn't have to wait long but I didn't want to have a D/C unless it was absolutely needed.  I knew it would be difficult emotionally but I have found that what has really helped me the most is that ever since I have kept a journal/diary and have wrote down every emotion/fear/anxiety that I have felt.  It's a way for me to vent and feel like I am sharing with someone even if I am not actually speaking to someone.  I can and do talk to my husband but as much as I love him (and I know he was directly affected by this experience as well) but they just don't understand what you are going through.  I only knew I was pregnant for 5 days but it was so exciting for me (us) and I felt so different in those 5 days. 

As for when it will happen . . . it's really hard to say because everybody is different and it may depend on how far along you were, I was at 6 weeks.  When it did happen naturally I just kept telling myself that it just wasn't meant to be right now and that God has another plan for us.  I'm not a real religious person but that is what helped get me through.  I won't lie it was very difficult.

KJsbabe

I'm sorry for your loss. The waiting is defiantly the hardest part. I found out at 10w6d that my baby hadn't gown past 6w. After being diagnosed it took me another 3 weeks to start bleeding. It really is different for everyone, though. It can take anywhere from a day or two to a few weeks for things to start. I've read a lot about natural MC vs D&C and it does sound like natural is better for your body, though much harder emotionally. There were many times during my 3 week wait that I wanted to call my doc up and schedule a D&C just to get it over with. Something always seemed to stop me, though. What ever decision you make, I hope you find peace with it.

SheLovesMrHip

We were told this past Thursday that my pregnancy wasnt viable....mine started on its own yesterday. I just want this over with so my body can stop feeling pregnant! It is very hard for me but I have  no choice. I hope things go well for you hun! I just suggest taking pain meds if they give you any, I never had period cramps like this before.

Mejin215

We found out on 1/7 that we had a missed MC.  I started spotting on 1/9 and just starting miscarrying on thurs 1/20.  I have had heavy bleeding and painful cramping since Thursday and i am ready for it to be over.  I am scheduled for a D&C on thurs but praying when i go for an ultrasound tomororw that everything is gone and i dont have to have it.

xnbride

I've done a lot of research on this topic as I had to wait out one of my losses. It took 2w from when we learned that it didn't look viable (6w) and I miscarried at 8w. Most of the literature I found said that the body will typically miscarry no later than 9w as that is when there is a big shift in hormones (the placenta takes over etc).Obviously there are exceptions  though.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish you the best. Take care of yourself and I hope that this process goes as smooth as possible. I personally found much comfort in being able to miscarry naturally-on my own terms, in my own time. I was able to grieve and say goodbye and even hold my child in my hands. For me it was therapeutic. I know that is graphic but it is what it is.

take care.  

AnglWngzCT

It's been a week since we found out our pg wasnt viable. I had 2-3 days of bleeding last week and now nothing. I go this week for an u/s and blood work to see where my HCG levels are. I am praying that was it and I wont need to have a D&C.

The waiting is so hard. I hope things start happening for you soon.

jpeazybreezy

It took me about 3-4 days after I found out to have heavy spotting, a few day later it was so bad I needed a pad, after two weeks from finding out I had the miscarriage, and bled for another few days thereafter.

I didn't mind the waiting, I felt like it gave me closure. What did feel kind of sucky was knowing that this had to happen sooner than later because I wanted to try again, and couldn't until this was over.

I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you get a resolution soon.

Rosieoutlook

I had a missed miscarriage. I spotted lightly from weeks 7-10, found out at 10 weeks that the baby had stopped developing at 8 weeks and had a miscarriage 8 days later.

hopperkj

I had a m/c the week of Jan. 10th of this year. It all started on Jan. 5th. I began having brown spotting. Then on Saturday the 8th I started having really intense cramping, light pink mixed with the brown and became light headed and dizzy. I called the hospital and they said to rest, keep my feet up, etc. As soon as Monday morning rolled around I called my doctor and they had me come in right away. They were still optimisitc so they took my blood and took me in for an u/s. Once they did the u/s there was no heartbeat. I was 10 weeks and the baby had grown properly but I guess it's little heart had just stopped. Anyways,that was all Monday. They wanted to wait until Wednesday to recheck my HCG levels to see where they were. Tuesday evening I started having horrible, extremely painful cramping and when I went to the bathroom I passed the first part of the miscarriage. I didn't know what to expect but it all happened at once. I was up all night on the 11th. Every 20 or 30 minutes there would be waves of extreme pain followed by clots. It lasted all nigth and the following day. Wednesday was the worse day I would say. I went back to the doctor and told them what had been happening and they gave me some pain pills and sent me back home. They scheduled another u/s for Monday the 17th to see if it all passed on its own and it had. The bleeding finally stopped that same week. We are going to wait 2 cycles to start trying again. I am still hurt by the loss of the baby. Today would've been 12 weeks and it breaks my heart. Just thought I would share my story. They say it can last only a couple of days or last weeks. Luckily mine was just those few short days.