BM is SUCH a selfish B!t@h!!!!

PlannedChaos

Okay.  BM currently pays $50/month child support on my three stepchildren.  They live with us full time.  She has the kids on Sundays from 10-7, and each Thursday evening she takes an alternating kid from 6:30-8.  So, realistically, she has the children max 10 1/2 hours per week.  Add to that the fact that SD(12) will not go with her mom anymore, and hasn't for 4 months.  BM was ordered to pay for medical insurance, doesn't.  Was orderd to pay 1/2 medical bills - doesn't.  Was ordered to provide life insurance on herself - doesn't. 

So, with me not working to support HER children, DH had made it clear that he's going to need to have the child suport changed.  He was nice to her in the divorce, and only let her pay $50/month because she is mental (no, really), and he wanted to give her time to get on her feet. Plus, at the time, they had agreed that she would watch the kids during the day, thus not requiring him to have them in daycare.  (something which had already changed before the divorce went through.)

Anyway - so he asked her to come up with a number she could afford - and she threw a fit.  She can't afford anything more than $50, and if he takes her to court for it, she'll end up homeless, because she can't afford more.  Uh-huh.

So imagine my surprise when she showed up in a brand new car yesterday to pick up the kids.  Not only that, it's her FOURTH new car in four years.

Mmhmm.  I guess she better really love that car, because if she's so adamant about not being able to afford more child support, she may be living in it.

J&A2008

ha ha -  love the image. 

RenandStimpy

Lol, yeah I can see her doing that.

 

You on the other hand seem like you just want her to be a decent mother and stop her crap. Unfortunately some parents are better off not in their childrens lives, she sounds like one of them.

MrsHeidiR

UGH - I can SOOO relate.  This sounds just like something my ex would do.  Hang in there.  I know how frustrating it can be!

taagent

That is crazy!  I can't believe that she can't afford more than $50!  I don't even have words!

Daisy77

I'm guessing that she pays on her own?  With no involvement from the state?  We did that for 2 years, we came up with an amount and he wrote me a check twice a month...then one day EX came to me and said he couldn't "afford" child support anymore.  What, with playing in a dart league, spending money to expand his one-time-every-three-months DJing business, and planning a wedding, he just couldn't find the money to pay what he owed.  Frankly, that guy had a deal.  He only paid me from September to May (when DD#1 is primarily with us), and besides big medical bills (um, none), I didn't ask for another dime.  I paid her activity fees and whatever insurance didn't cover for medical and dental.

He insisted it wasn't fair.  Okay.  We took him to court.  It cost us a few shiny pennies, but it was well worth it to shut him up.  Now he pays year round (and it's MORE), and is responsible for her insurances (medical and dental).  He pays 65% of whatever insurance doesn't cover and she just got braces.  We paid our share with one check.  He needed a payment plan.  He pays half of any activity she participates in, including extras (uniforms, tournament fees, etc.).  The words "child support" haven't come out of his mouth since.

I tried being nice.  I knew his financial situation and I wanted to help him out for DD#1 (who is kept completely out of any issues, as she should be).  But ultimately, I'm not responsible for how he manages his life anymore.  DD#1 is happy and that is what matters.  If he can't pay, he has to take it up with his people, the state and my lawyer.