Input needed on Birthcontrol after baby

secontimemommy31111

DH wants me to get my tubes tied because he said we are done and although I agree with him but I just don't want to do anything that permanent at 26 years old. I would never remember the pill and I want something long term so I was thinking about the Mirena. I would love to do the copper 10 year IUD but I have really bad periods and was told this one can sometimes make it worse. I had the IMPLANON after DD but it's only good for 3 years and doctors in my area no longer do it because of complications with removing it. Anyone has experience with the Mirena?

Temp110085250009077

I had the Mirena after #2 and had it in for about 3 years before we decided to try for #3. Best. Decision. Ever!

I suck at remembering the pill (which is how we conceived #2 in the first place). Not only did I not have to remember anything, but my periods became almost non-existent and I forgot what cramps felt like. There was a transition time, of course, where I had spotting, breakthrough bleeding and random cramping, but it was well worth it and I will definitely do it again. 

magdalina.h

we're going to use condoms and I'm going to chart. I can't be on bc because I'm a huge b!tch when on them. lol  I figure that if I'm fertile only a few days out of the month I shouldn't be the one responsible for taking the b/c. (saying that with some silliness, but it's still true)

anukindaluv

I just talked to my doctor yesterday about getting my tubes tied after this baby.  He wants me to "continue to think about it" b/c the procedure is permanent.  As much as I'd like to try for a girl later down the road, I don't want to be in this 2U2 situation again.

clynn58

I think I am going with the IUD bc I would like to wait at least 2+ years before we try for a third. I think it is the best option bc I can't remember to take the bill and want something that can be long term.

Scout05

magdalina.h:

we're going to use condoms and I'm going to chart. I can't be on bc because I'm a huge b!tch when on them. lol  I figure that if I'm fertile only a few days out of the month I shouldn't be the one responsible for taking the b/c. (saying that with some silliness, but it's still true)

Same for us. I won't be put back on hormonal BC given the clotting disorder that they found during my loss testing. And though I kind of think we're done with pregnancy, my OB cautioned me that 28 is just too early in my fertility life (and esp. coming off the heels of two years of heartbreak and loss) to make a perminent decision.

Of course if I insisted, they would do whatever I wished, but I think he's right. I need some distance from all this to decide what we really want to do.

So back to DH suiting up. It'll be fun? Like college? Blah.

kipper1128

First, focus on the permanence of it all - not the "maybe we'll need to replace a child along the way."

If your DH wants something that's more "for sure" have him go under the knife!  That's reversible!

jennyohyeah

I had convinced myself I would be done after this pregnancy and wanted to tie my tubes....when I mentioned it to the Dr. she said they really don't do it anymore because Mirena and Paraguard(copper one) are just as effective and that they are not permanent.  So far I have found most of the women have chosen MIrena and are happy with it.  I think I am going to try the copper one first to see if it does make my period really heavy and if so then I can always switch.  Good luck ; )

babylizz

After I had my son I was convinced I would never have another baby. I thought about having my tubes tied but at the time I was 23 and my doc was really against it. He recommended Mirena and I'm SOOOOOOOOOO glad I did it. Pills never worked well for me, I conceived my son while on the pill. The first year on Mirena was spotty, literally, but then my periods went away completely for 3 years. At the start of my 4th year on it, I started getting my periods back. (A lot changed in that 4 years, I got divorced and remarried and decided I wanted to have another baby). My doc was concerned that the hormones in Mirena were wearing off (which it will still prevent pregnancy even if that happens), so he recommended removal. It was taken out in October 2009, we used condoms til after our wedding in March 2010, and I got my BFP June 2010. The whole experience, insertion and removal, was painless and not having to pop a pill every day was awesome.

I will be getting another Mirena after my baby girl is born. We are pretty sure 2 kids is enough but there is an off-chance we may change our minds in a few years and I want to leave that option open.

MamaMandaW

Popping in from 12-24!

I just had my 6 week Mirena office visit and so far it's good! I've been spotting but no cramping or pain-- i can't even tell it's there!

I still have some symptoms of the Depo in my system... so I can't be 100% clear on all the symptoms...

We were talking about the Mirena and the Copper IUD and i asked him which was more popular, and he said he probably does 1 paragaurd (copper iud) out of every 10 Mirena's.. and that the Paraguard is known for giving heavier more painful/crampy periods and the Mirena is known for making you have either very light or NO periods..

But it's 10 years VS 5 years.. but the procedure isn't really that bad getting it inserted.. i wouldn't mind going through that every 5 years and have no period VS bad periods for 10 years...

skio

kipper1128:

If your DH wants something that's more "for sure" have him go under the knife!  That's reversible!

This. I hate when men tell their wives that they should go get a major surgery that also happens to be irreversible to prevent future pregnancies when they can go in for a very simple snip and accomplish the same thing - AND reverse it if necessary. (Unless you're having a scheduled c/s and he just suggested that you have it done then - but that still doesn't take away the irreversible factor).

I think 26 is very young to be making this type of decision. Try an IUD, for sure. Talk to your doctors about other options.

I don't have a problem remembering the pill, but I don't want to go back on hormones after LO because they made migraines worse by about a million percent. So I'm thinking of just charting/family planning until we have #2, then going to the non-hormonal IUD (Paraguard).

SNL0605

secontimemommy31111:

DH wants me to get my tubes tied because he said we are done and although I agree with him but I just don't want to do anything that permanent at 26 years old. I would never remember the pill and I want something long term so I was thinking about the Mirena. I would love to do the copper 10 year IUD but I have really bad periods and was told this one can sometimes make it worse. I had the IMPLANON after DD but it's only good for 3 years and doctors in my area no longer do it because of complications with removing it. Anyone has experience with the Mirena?

If HE says you are done then HE can get snipped....end of discussion

Sarai28

I will go back on the pill.  Never had a problem with it.  After we're done having kids, DH already said he'll get snipped.  My co-worker and I were talking about the Essure procedure today.  She had it a few years ago and has now read a lot of material on people who had it getting preg!