Waiting Game

SheLovesMrHip

i dont know what to expect right now. as i lay here in bed posting from my phone so i apologize for the grammer errors and typeos. still processing being told today that our pregnancy isnt going to make it....although we just found out last week it has felt like forever with the news. so today i was given three options. one is to wait and see or take the the cytotec and speed it up or just have the d and c. its such an early pregnancy that i dont know what to do. i really dont want to sit here feeling and still really being pregnant when im not. will anyone please tell me what they would do i cant stand feeling like this. wake up today pregnant then hours am told it isnt normal and has stopped growing. emotions are all over the place.

MegMeg0913

I am sorry that you are having to go through this.  There are many of us that will be here for support whenever you need anything, but because everyones situation is different it is hard to give you advice on which path you should take. If you have specific questions on any of your options, I know you can get some excellent firsthand experience here.  I don't think that either of your three decisions will make it any easier emotionally.   

Whatever you and your DH choose, I hope that you have a quick recovery.  

~big hug~ and don't forget you never have to deal with this alone. 

tonesq

Waiting is the worst. It is so important though to allow yourself enough time to know whatever you decide to do is best for you emotionally and physically. No one can tell you what is best for you. If we did, and you listened, you could feel a lot of guilt and regret later on down the road. Good luck and we will support you no matter what you decide to do.

AnglWngzCT

I am so sorry you are going through this. I am currently in the same boat. I found out this week I dont have a viable pg. Because I started to spot, I chose to m/c naturally. Sometimes I 2nd guess my decision as the wait is agonizing. My dr is giving me a week to m/c and then will want me to have a D&C if my levels haven't started to go down. I wish you peace and comfort during this difficult time. The ladies here are so supportive. I am new here and have found comfort reading everyone's story. You are not alone.

starpants

I'm so sorry for your loss. 

It's such a difficult and personal decision.  Here's my experience - I had a D&C in August.  My doctor suggested it because she felt it was best to put this experience behind me as quickly as possible.  It was quick, easy and virtually painless.  I did not regret the decision.

I found out a month ago that I am going to miscarry again. My doctor (different doctor) suggest that I wait to miscarry naturally because he feels that's the better option.  I've been waiting for a month.  It's been a very difficult month and I'm constantly preoccupied and distracted by this.  Tomorrow I'm having a D&C.  In retrospect I wish I'd waited for a shorter amount of time.  One or two weeks. 

If you choose to wait, you'll know when enough is enough.  

StaceyM06

I'm sorry for your loss. I agree with PP that it is a difficult and personal decision. My betas were so low during my last m/c that my dr. recommended passing it naturally. This time around, my betas were higher but only slowly rising so my dr. gave me the same 3 choices as you. I requested a 4th beta before making a decision. The 4th beta dropped (last Thursday) so much that my dr. said I could wait for it to pass naturally again. I started bleeding on Monday. GL with your decision. 

MrsMitty08

I am sorry you have to go through this.  I chohse the cytotec option in December for my m/c.  I didn't really know any better but it is what my OB suggested for my situation.  It was an awful experience but I don't know that a D&C would have been any better, just maybe faster depending on if I could get it scheduled right away and more costly.  I was able to start to cytotec the night we found out about the missed m/c. 

Ask your doctor what she/he advises for your situation--that is what I did and that is why we chose cytotec.  Good luck with your decision.

e_dogsgirl

I just found out today at my first dr. visit and now it is a waiting game this is not fun at all :-(

I feel your pain!