Tell me about a time you acted without thinking and it all turned out ok.

desabean

I feel like a boob.  We have two friends who have babies the same age as G that we went to the beach with last year and had a great time.  We are beginning to make plans for this year's vacation and for some reason I sent an e-mail to my cousin asking them if they want to join us, without clearing it with the other families first.

I mentioned it to one of the friends before I got an answer from my cousin and she basically said she thought we should have discussed it first (rightly so) and that she may just rent a separate house with her parents.  I'm sort of annoyed with her passive aggressiveness but feel like I can really only blame myself since it all could have been avoided had I just cleared it ahead of time.

So, of course my cousins can go and are excited about it (and I'm thrilled they can go) but now I'm worried that the other couples are going to be annoyed and possibly even bail.

It's not something I would do (as long as I get a master bedroom with a king I couldn't care less who else is there...) but I forget that not everyone is like me and I've been stressing about this for 2 days.  I sent the group an e-mail letting them know and now I am a ball of anxiety about how they are going to respond.  Ugh.

So-- I just needed to get it off my chest.  I'm not really interested in hearing confirmation that I screwed up but maybe you all could share a story of when you acted without thinking and how it turned out ok ??  pretty please??

ela81

I know I have but, I can't think of anything off the top of my hear right now.

I will say I'm weird about inviting other people to do certain things, including vacation or if we are doing something with others and they have invited somebody else. I know it's weird, I can't help it anyway, the good side is I always end up having a great time! Also, I never tell anybody except my dh if I'm annoyed or less than excited about it, that part I can and do control.

It will be fine! Even if your one friend stays at a different place you will have a great time with the people you are staying with!

I don't know if you all live in the same area or not but, if you do maybe you can get everybody to go out to dinner and get to know each other (if they don't already).

howleyshell

First... I've tried to catch you the past 2 nights and figure this is a good way in case you're already off!

Here's a link to my page with my twin kitty pic post:

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/47902489.aspx

 

now... on to your delima....

I think it's common for people who are not social butterflies to cringe at having a new party thrown into a mix that they're comfortable with and know they've enjoyed in the past.

I'm the type that would invite anyone anywhere at anytime.  The more the merrier, right?  And people that I hang with are VERY likely to all get along with each other.  I love it when people introduce me to new peeps so why not do the same for others, right?

I totally get where you were coming from.

But.... like I said I understand her freak out.  Not everyone is like me (like you said).

I sincerely hope that no matter how upset she is she takes a chance and gives it a try.  

I'm gonna laugh when she ends up being BFF's with your cousin.

I've been in a similar situation inviting new people into a book club (read:  drinking club).  I could tell some of the women were none too pleased but in the end everyone was enjoying the night.

Wine works wonders.

My advice is everyone comes is to liquor up ASAP.

 

desabean

howleyshell:

First... I've tried to catch you the past 2 nights and figure this is a good way in case you're already off!

Here's a link to my page with my twin kitty pic post:

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/47902489.aspx

 

now... on to your delima....

I think it's common for people who are not social butterflies to cringe at having a new party thrown into a mix that they're comfortable with and know they've enjoyed in the past.

I'm the type that would invite anyone anywhere at anytime.  The more the merrier, right?  And people that I hang with are VERY likely to all get along with each other.  I love it when people introduce me to new peeps so why not do the same for others, right?

I totally get where you were coming from.

But.... like I said I understand her freak out.  Not everyone is like me (like you said).

I sincerely hope that no matter how upset she is she takes a chance and gives it a try.  

I'm gonna laugh when she ends up being BFF's with your cousin.

I've been in a similar situation inviting new people into a book club (read:  drinking club).  I could tell some of the women were none too pleased but in the end everyone was enjoying the night.

Wine works wonders.

My advice is everyone comes is to liquor up ASAP.

 

 

Love the kitty pic-- so adorable-- thanks for hunting me down ; ) 

I hope you are right about the beach.  There will be no shortage of liquor, that is for sure. 

 

Either way, I've learned a valuable lesson and will never do something like this again.

howleyshell

Totally off your original post now but you wrote this about your kitty:

When I adopted them and tried to hold Lucy (the gray one) she wouldn't let me and the volunteer tried to convince me she wouldn't be a good pet and I shouldn't get her, but I loved her. 

 

Umm.... WTF????

 

How MANY cats have you ever seen who like to be held?

 

I've never had one.

Not one.

 And all my cats have been awesome pets.

What a dumb thing to say to you!  Especially with so many pets needing homes and a willing owner right there in front of them!!  

Was this a kill or no-kill shelter?

 

Wow.

 

SOOO glad you didn't listen to her!

Magoy

I do this kind of stuff all the time.  And, then I stress about it for days... can't sleep 'cause I'm thinking about it... but it always seems to work out fine.  

You're going to have a good time no matter what.  I second w/ the PP (can't remember who) about getting everyone together for dinner or something before you go.  Great way to break the ice.