having your dad watch your delivery?

MayDayGirl

Am I the only one who thinks this is nasty? I am watching a baby story and she wanted her dad to be in the room and he's right by her legs watching and taking pictures. 

Does any one else think that is very strange?

KYRN

No I think it is gross too.  In my former life as an L&D nurse, I was pushing with a 15 year old patient and her dad walked in the room and stood right behind me, which was right in front of her vag.  I kicked him out of the room, what dad wants to see his teenage daughters vagina? 

MyColonyNJ

i didn't even want my husband down there.  So, yeah - I would NEVER have my dad even IN the room.

LVBlvd

That seems very wrong to me.  My dad and I are very close, and I leave the room when I am breastfeeding.  

LCB34

That seems wrong to me as well.  There are just some things Dads shouldn't see.  Their daughter's vag being very, very high on that list.

MayDayGirl

LCB34:

That seems wrong to me as well.  There are just some things Dads shouldn't see.  Their daughter's vag being very, very high on that list.

lol I love this statement.

GreenEyedGal

I totally just watched that! He was all up in her kool-aid just snapping away and smiling. Totally not my cup of tea.

And I teared-up towards the end, it never fails. Baby Story=Tears

dana316

Sorry, that is just too much.  My Dad doesn't need to see my stuff...period, end of story.

Ick.

 

LisaMarisa

Uhhh... I dont think so.  That is just wrong.  I guess it depends on the kind of relationship that you have with you dad though... maybe? 

yuck.

LucyPevensie

Definitely would not be my cup of tea (of course I'm totally estranged from my father so he has never even met my son) BUT .. it doesn't freak me out .. I really think it depends on the relationship, some people are just very open and wouldn't think twice about it. 

LisaandBryan

no way in helll. that is nasty.

schoolsoutbride

My Dad said my birth was the most amazing moment of his life.  He wanted to be there when my son was born and said it was right up there as one of the best moments of his life.

It's not like he had his head in my crotch. If anything, I think it made him nervous seeing his daughter in pain.

When everybody else was ohhing over the baby in the warmer, it was my Dad who held my hand as I was being stitched up.

Just because it's not for you doesn't mean it's nasty.   I think it's kind of weird that you all are so weirded out by it, honestly.

fallbride110406

LCB34:

That seems wrong to me as well.  There are just some things Dads shouldn't see.  Their daughter's vag being very, very high on that list.

This, totally.  I caught part of that Baby Story too as I was getting sippies and did a double take.  My dad is deceased but that would totally creep me the eff out.

June4bride2be

Yeah, not for me either!

When I was around 7 or so my dad was running me a bath. He had his own house after my parents split and I was visiting. I felt shy about undressing in front of him for my bath and he said "I used to change your diapers!". Maybe that is what that dad thought! haha A woman giving birth looks a little different that an infant in that area, no? lol

I will add that my dad did respect my privacy and it never came up again. 

Mouseygail

schoolsoutbride:

When everybody else was ohhing over the baby in the warmer, it was my Dad who held my hand as I was being stitched up.

  That's really sweet

sixres

I agree with you!

Although, I did have 2 friend's who's fathers were in the room.  One video taped, the other held one leg.  Weird.

June4bride2be

schoolsoutbride:

My Dad said my birth was the most amazing moment of his life.  He wanted to be there when my son was born and said it was right up there as one of the best moments of his life.

It's not like he had his head in my crotch. If anything, I think it made him nervous seeing his daughter in pain.

When everybody else was ohhing over the baby in the warmer, it was my Dad who held my hand as I was being stitched up.

Just because it's not for you doesn't mean it's nasty.   I think it's kind of weird that you all are so weirded out by it, honestly.

I think the main issue is that he was right in there taking pictures.....no one should be doing that! The poor Target photo clerk! haha JK, I would hope the were digital and not printed! 

schoolsoutbride

June4bride2be:

schoolsoutbride:

My Dad said my birth was the most amazing moment of his life.  He wanted to be there when my son was born and said it was right up there as one of the best moments of his life.

It's not like he had his head in my crotch. If anything, I think it made him nervous seeing his daughter in pain.

When everybody else was ohhing over the baby in the warmer, it was my Dad who held my hand as I was being stitched up.

Just because it's not for you doesn't mean it's nasty.   I think it's kind of weird that you all are so weirded out by it, honestly.

My BFF was the one taking pictures   

I think the main issue is that he was right in there taking pictures.....no one should be doing that! The poor Target photo clerk! haha JK, I would hope the were digital and not printed! 

MayDayGirl

schoolsoutbride:

My Dad said my birth was the most amazing moment of his life.  He wanted to be there when my son was born and said it was right up there as one of the best moments of his life.

It's not like he had his head in my crotch. If anything, I think it made him nervous seeing his daughter in pain.

When everybody else was ohhing over the baby in the warmer, it was my Dad who held my hand as I was being stitched up.

Just because it's not for you doesn't mean it's nasty.   I think it's kind of weird that you all are so weirded out by it, honestly.

I can see what you are saying, but for me it is nasty. Period.  I would be completely grossed out afterward looking at my dad and knowing what he had seen.

I am glad it was a good experience for you, but for me (and my dad) it would be repulsive and horrific.

btw, about your dad holding your hand, so sweet.

Nicole.

I wouldn't, but I don't think it's creepy.  I didn't see the episode, but taking pictures is a little weird.  My dad would never be comfortable being in the room anyway (it took him like a week to get comfortable being in the same room with me nursing Jake.)

somethingchangd

I don't think there's anything wrong with it.  It's not the relationship *I* have with my dad - he would most certainly not be down there - but I don't think it's inappropriate if dad and daughter are both comfortable with it.

sommerrayne

I'd give my left arm to have any family have ANY interest in ANYthing related to my adult life. So no, I don't think its creepy if you have forged that sort of relationship with your father.

browneyedgrl4282

I wouldn't want my dad in the room but I would never have to worry about that because out of 6 kids my dad was never in the delivery room! He was/is a wuss!

 I did want my father there at the hospital while I was delivering but not in the room (even if i had vaginally). My husband was almost scared of the operating room and we had a backup person (my mom or sister) to bein the room but sadly I ended up wtih general both times, so no one but the medical staff was there. I hate that i didn't get hear all the first cries or see them before anyone else in my family!

alchris

, personally!

After Kira was born he did come in the L&D room about an hour later, and I did BF Elena in front of him (consciously discreetly) last month, but that's as far as I'll go!

ETA: But it means SO much to me that he still tears up when asked about being in the room for my birth.

schmoodle

Nasty. I don't even want my mom there, much less my dad (I'm SUPER modest).

debdebtx

Call me nasty.  My dad was in the room.  He is a physician and has seen hundreds of births. I didn't think I would be comfortable with it, but once I was pushing I didn't care who was there.  He didn't look until she was coming out, so it is not like he was staring at my vag for hours or anything, he was across he room.  He cried, so did my mom.  For the record, my husband didn't look, not even a peek and I didn't allow photography of any kind.

 

MonkeysGirl05

Hmmm.... not really for me. I don't think I'd even want him in the room. I might have been ok with him in the room while I was laboring, but not for any actual pushing. That was a special time for me and my DH (and the hospital staff, lol).

kittylove

LucyPevensie:

Definitely would not be my cup of tea (of course I'm totally estranged from my father so he has never even met my son) BUT .. it doesn't freak me out .. I really think it depends on the relationship, some people are just very open and wouldn't think twice about it. 

This word for word.

firsttogo

Doesn't freak me out. Not sure my dad would be in any of my future deliveries, but I think my mom may be in the next one. I was super modest with NOlan, pretty modest with Linc, less modest with Gwen, and now that I have had rectum surgery..... anyone and everyone... J/K but really, I don't think it is nasty, I just don't think that everyone has that type of relationship.

Sommer made me sad though when she commented that she wished her family were interested. I had to kick my mom's assss out of the delivery room with the first and third, but she was flying home when Lincoln was born. It is all what you are accustomed to. 

WhiteysWifey

Weird....my dad (and mom and sister and MIL and SIL and DH) were all in the room while I was laboring...when it was time for me to push they all left (except DH). Even that....after the fact (I was in my own little zone the whole time), I was thinking...I hope my butt wasn't hanging out of my gown while I was walking around and kneeling on the floor.

In the room though, during pushing....don't think so. Although SIL is going to be a midwife....which I think it would be awesome for her to deliver.

desabean

No.way.in.hell.

I didn't even let my mom in the room (though she did try to sneak/break in and the nurses ended up keeping guard at the door.  I just am not that close with my mom and really felt it was a private moment between my husband and me.

LIAngel

My dad?!?!  The thought wouldn't have even crossed my mind.  besides that, my dad is the most squeemish person I know.  He can't even watch shows like ER or Greys where they show you stuff sometimes.   

But even if he wasn't squeemish, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want him seeing my lady business or my insides laying on a tray next to me while my baby is pulled out. 

Hey maybe just for the "fun" of it I should say "Hey Dad, I was wondering if you wanted to watch me deliver this time?"  Just to see what he'd say.

June24Bride

well I had 7 family members in my birth room ( it was a big room ) my dad being one of them. They were not in view of my vag. They all were there for me through my IF and we are all very close. There was nothing nasty about it.

Kim777

My dad was in the delivery room, along with my DH, mom, SIL, brother, and the friend who did my birth photography. They were all sideways across the room from me. No one was looking at my vag, ever, at all. Not even my DH! They were all really supportive of me and I'm glad they were there. It wasn't weird or uncomfortable then and it never has been since.