the online viewing @ preschool is torture

cecig

This is Cassie's second week at preschool, and it is killing me to watch her cry. She didn't cry at all the first week, but she's cried both mornings this week. I'm guessing she's gotten comfortable enough to express her feelings? And right now, she is crying because they won't let her have her lovey I was informed at registration that loveys weren't allowed, except for at naptime which I totally agree with....it's just hard seeing her cry & not being able to console her

 

lelekay

Awwww!  That's so hard!  Hopefully, she'll adjust and get used to it there soon.

I'm so glad our daycare doesn't have cameras.....I wouldn't be able to turn away!  They do send a daily email with photos, though, which I look forward to all day.  Good luck, mama.....she'll be fine!  

MauiWedding08

oh that would make me sad too

Actually, I hate drop off because of the crying.  DH (and the teachers) assure me he doesn't cry when DH drops him off but on the rare days I have to do it he stands at the play area gate (infant room has a defined play space) and cries while I walk out the door because he isn't use to the different routine.  Even if they go hold him and get him interested in a book/toy he is sad for a while (we don't have online viewing - I just peek through the window in the hall).

But, it's great that she is learning new social skills and getting use to new environments - learning new things and making new friends.  I'm sure you get to see fun times on the video too and that is really neat.

Married2MrWright

OMG, I couldn't take it. Why no loveys except at naptime? Aren't they for comfort? I would think at week 2 of a new situation a lovey would be perfect for finding a comfort zone. But that's me...I am a BIG OL' softie and hate "rules" for wee ones.  Especially ones that seem to go against their own nature.

vanilla15

lelekay:

I'm so glad our daycare doesn't have cameras.....I wouldn't be able to turn away!  

same here.  I would definitely get fired b/c all I would do is watch the video!

I am sure Cassie will get the hang of it soon, but I know it is tough in the meantime.

cecig

vanilla15:

lelekay:

I'm so glad our daycare doesn't have cameras.....I wouldn't be able to turn away!  

same here.  I would definitely get fired b/c all I would do is watch the video!

Trust me, my level of work production definitely slows down the days she is at school. The online viewing is in addition to her tuition so I only opted for one month but now I'm sitting here wondering how I'll ever wean myself off from it

cecig

Married2MrWright:

OMG, I couldn't take it. Why no loveys except at naptime? Aren't they for comfort? I would think at week 2 of a new situation a lovey would be perfect for finding a comfort zone. But that's me...I am a BIG OL' softie and hate "rules" for wee ones.  Especially ones that seem to go against their own nature.

Her teachers allowed her to have Lollie last week, part of Tuesday, and just for a bit this morning. They prefer that the kids put their loveys in their cubby because they tend to be a distraction. And I suppose it's true. I was watching Cassie this morning and she was just standing there, holding Lollie and sucking her thumb while the rest of kids were playing. A little bit later, they were all dancing and holding hands, and well she couldn't because she was holding Lollie.

I'm a big ol' softie too Lori! It doesn't help that she's had Lollie since she was 3 months old. It's going to be hard to wean her off....I guess we should slowly start at home?

MauiWedding08

Married2MrWright:

OMG, I couldn't take it. Why no loveys except at naptime? Aren't they for comfort? I would think at week 2 of a new situation a lovey would be perfect for finding a comfort zone. But that's me...I am a BIG OL' softie and hate "rules" for wee ones.  Especially ones that seem to go against their own nature.

I don't really mind the standards they have for the waddler 1-2y/o room (J will move up next month) including naps and meals at a set time, (not sure about loveys from what I see the kids put them in their nap cubes so I bet they only take them out at nap time) and structure.  I think helping children adapt to new surroundings and experiences definitely has value and I'm pretty lax about lots of stuff.

mrspresley

MauiWedding08:

But, it's great that she is learning new social skills and getting use to new environments - learning new things and making new friends.  I'm sure you get to see fun times on the video too and that is really neat.

I think helping children adapt to new surroundings and experiences definitely has value and I'm pretty lax about lots of stuff.

I totally agree I know it must be SO hard to watch her cry and not being able to do anything about it but just think about how much is growing and learning by being there!

oh and btw I think that is crap that they charge you extra for online viewing when it hardly costs them anything to have the webcam up and running like that....they are basically taking advantage of parents' IMO!

Married2MrWright

cecig:

Married2MrWright:

OMG, I couldn't take it. Why no loveys except at naptime? Aren't they for comfort? I would think at week 2 of a new situation a lovey would be perfect for finding a comfort zone. But that's me...I am a BIG OL' softie and hate "rules" for wee ones.  Especially ones that seem to go against their own nature.

Her teachers allowed her to have Lollie last week, part of Tuesday, and just for a bit this morning. They prefer that the kids put their loveys in their cubby because they tend to be a distraction. And I suppose it's true. I was watching Cassie this morning and she was just standing there, holding Lollie and sucking her thumb while the rest of kids were playing. A little bit later, they were all dancing and holding hands, and well she couldn't because she was holding Lollie.

I'm a big ol' softie too Lori! It doesn't help that she's had Lollie since she was 3 months old. It's going to be hard to wean her off....I guess we should slowly start at home?

I see. Well, yes, maybe gentle weaning from Lollie at home would be a good idea. Maybe only have her in bed or at night or something. Similar to what parents do for pacis? Love that it's named Lollie...that's my nickname. Is it a BlaBla doll? I've been wanting to get one for Libby. She seems to be developing an attachment to a plush blanket with satin trim lately.  I do like Coco and Violet though!

Married2MrWright

mrspresley:

oh and btw I think that is crap that they charge you extra for online viewing when it hardly costs them anything to have the webcam up and running like that....they are basically taking advantage of parents' IMO!

I agree 100%. Same with hotels charging $10+/day for WiFi. WTF? It should be free!

MrsZiz

mrspresley:

MauiWedding08:

But, it's great that she is learning new social skills and getting use to new environments - learning new things and making new friends.  I'm sure you get to see fun times on the video too and that is really neat.

I think helping children adapt to new surroundings and experiences definitely has value and I'm pretty lax about lots of stuff.

I totally agree I know it must be SO hard to watch her cry and not being able to do anything about it but just think about how much is growing and learning by being there!

oh and btw I think that is crap that they charge you extra for online viewing when it hardly costs them anything to have the webcam up and running like that....they are basically taking advantage of parents' IMO!

I agree that they shouldn't charge you. They have the camera there, what's the big deal? Just let the parents have access to it for FREE!!

About the lovey, I can see how they let her have it and then try to wean her off... it's a hard process, I'm sure like weaning a paci or a bottle but then again it's the best for her in the end so she can intereact fully with the other kids. I'm sure each day will get a little better. We used to let Bella have her lovey all the time and we slowly weaned to just in the crib, unless she's sick or having a terrible day but then once things are normal (like she's no longer sick or her day is getting better) then the lovey goes back in the crib. In the morning, we take bunny (her lovey) out for the first diaper change but before we leave her room we kiss bunny and say "ni ni bunny" and he goes back in her crib. She does ok with it. I would suggest weaning her at home too, maybe to naps and sleeping, so it's not such a process for her... poor girl!

inamra

Awww =( Now that I'm actively finding daycares, I wonder if B is going to be like that. He's usually very "polite" in new environments with people around because I think he's socially aware that he should be more behaved in public, but if he gets too comfortable, I think he will start to express his feelings more too...

But I can't find a place with cameras and would *love* to find & use that feature! But maybe, it's a good thing that I can't find one with remote viewing since I probably won't get any work done =P

But I hope C gets adjusted soon and hopefully it's just a matter of getting even more comfortable with preschool in general. The adjustment period is always hard!