Friend's FB status- would this give you a gulty conscience?

LIAngel

So my BFF ( i know sounds so high school- sorry) had this as her status today- which I just saw about 30 minutes ago:

"It's sad how after all these years I am still learning that no matter what a Good Friend you may be there are times when people will just disappoint you....it is what it is... but it still hurts..."

yesterday morning she had posted that she had fallen on some ice and hit her head the night before.  Everyone commented stuff like "Ouch, I hope you feel better"   A couple of people even told her to go to the Dr (since she said she was still feeling crappy).   I commented on that thread and said "I hope you feel better and listen to whoever told you to go the Dr".  

Okay I wasn't home for a few hours yesterday and hardly at all today.   

Come home and hop back online.  Same friend posts that she is doing a lot better and thank you to all the phonecalls and well wishes to her family and friends.   So I comment "Glad you are doing better".     I didn't call her cause I read this comment at like 10:00 at night (way too late to call her). 

So if you read her latest status update- would you think this was her talking about you?   No I didn't call to see how she was.  But in my defense- I was barely home yesterday and today.   I really thought she was okay- she said so on FB.  I just thought it was a little slip on the ice- people slip on ice all the time.

Sorry if this makes no sense.  It makes sense in my head though.

Shelley-Bean

Well, I don't know your friend, but if my BFF posted this, I wouldn't think it was about me.  You commented on her wall twice.  It was a slip on the ice, not a car accident or a heart attack.  In my world, that is enough.

If your BFF is posting this about you, I think she's a bit overly sensitive.

LIAngel

Shelley-Bean:

Well, I don't know your friend, but if my BFF posted this, I wouldn't think it was about me.  You commented on her wall twice.  It was a slip on the ice, not a car accident or a heart attack.  In my world, that is enough.

If your BFF is posting this about you, I think she's a bit overly sensitive.

And I think if I DO call her tomorrow it will look like I do have a guilty conscience.  Cause we never ever talk during the week- since we are both so busy.   We normally talk on weekends via phone. 

Cassian

Every time I have thought I knew what a cryptic FB post was about, I was way wrong, so now, I don't guess or assume anything anymore. From an outside point of view, its hard to tell. Disappointment arises in us when we have expectations of other people and they are not met. I have no idea what kind of expectations she would have of a BFF in something like that.

If I slipped and fell on the ice and hit my head, I wouldn't expect anyone to call me to see if I was alright. Hell, I broke my toes twice in the last couple months and made a post about it and no one called me. I would have thought it weird if they did.

LucyPevensie

NOT to "diss" your BFF (although clearly I am about to) - but her passive-aggressive posting strikes me as reeeallly immature.  Maybe it's not directed at ANYBODY who could possibly see it - although that makes no sense as I imagine her Good Friends are also FB friends of hers.  So scratch that - I'm assuming it IS directed at somebody she knows or at least hopes will see it - but yet it's a passive aggressive, indirect, public tsk tsk at ... someone. Someone who, like you, is wondering - is this directed at ME? 

Why not just reach out to said Good Friend privately?  Or - not say anything at all and live with being a little disappointed in an imperfect friend (because who IS perfect?)

I dunno.  I just would never in a million years utilize FB for this purpose - a passive aggressive "scolding" of another BFF.  My 18 year old niece might.  But even she shouldn't, really.  It's immature.  Sorry!!!!  But it is.

sommerrayne

I wouldn't pay it 2 seconds of thought. If she's really that torn up about someone not calling and coddling her as a grown adult, she needs to pull up her big girl panties and deal. Sorry if that's harsh but life goes on. I don't put all of my ailments on the internet for public commentary nor do I expect special treatment when accidents happen. Its call life and dealing with it. She didn't lose a leg in 'Nam or have PTSD from going off to war....she fell on the ice - it sucks but it happens. She'll get over it - a bruised ego sounds like her worst ailment right now. Well, and some massive delayed maturity issues.

desabean

I don't like passive aggressive comments like that on facebook.  If it is about you (which I don't think it is) I would ignore it and let her put on her big girl pants and call you or send you a personal e-mail saying she was disappointed you didn't do more.

LIAngel

Thanks everyone!

Mouseygail

I'd probably be a little nervous, but I'm weird like that   I think that if you are concerned about it and she's your bestie, just call her tonight!  tell her that you have been thinking about her and make sure she is ok

EastCoastBride

She slipped on the fricking ice.  Cripes.  To expect phone calls etc over that is a bit much in and of itself.

Past that, she's placing WAY too much importance on FB.  I have friends who dont' go on every day.  Even myself- I usually get on every day, but sometimes I don't.  And even if I can only get on once, I don't necessarily go through EVERY single post I missed since my last log-on. 

To expect that everyone saw her status and respond to it is also a bit much too. 

 

KYRN

I would contemplate if it was about me just because that's what I do, but from what I've read I don't think it was about you.  I agree with LP, it's a passive aggressive move no matter who it's directed at.

I would probably send a txt or something just to check in, she what's new etc.  But if I wanted my BFF's sympathy b/c I slipped on the ice and fell  I would call her and tell her in order to get my sympathy (b/c I am a baby and I tend to exaggerate my injuries and like the sympathy and not expect her to read it on FB and then call me.