Does the sting ever go away?

MrsRyan61804

I found out today that a friend is pregnant with her second. I tried to be happy for her and asked all the right questions to show I was happy for her. But inside I was hurt. I kept trying to tell myself you have your miracle baby you shouldn't be hurt anymore. But I still was!

I guess it's just the thought that there are people out there that can just make babies whenever they want. No fears of m/c's. I want another baby so badly and wish it could just happen the old fashion way.  But I know that will never happen and even if it does I will be worried about m/c's for the whole pregnancy.

Does it ever go away? Does it ever get better? Does IF ever stop haunting you?

browneyedgrl4282

Honestly, no I don't think it ever goes away! I think the only person for me that it didn't stink with was my best friend who went through IF and happened to get surprise BFP! Even after 3 kids, it still hurts!

newsbaby

Hell no. I still get jealous when I find out someone is pg. I don't think the sting will ever go away. 

nolachick11

I didn't think it would sting, but recently when SIL got her BFP,  it did.  They already have  another who is 5 but they got pregnant after 1st try both times.  When my nephew who's 5 told me, "Aunt K, I'm gonna have a brother or sister" it stung!   And I instantly felt this jealousy inside me...which is usually not like me.  I know I'm blessed but it sometimes still gets me inside. 

Smudges*Mom

Hopefully it will lessen with time, but I don't think it goes away. We are one and done. I know it is best for our family. But I still am sad that I/we had to make the decision how and why we did. Though, I am thankful for my precious boy. There is a huge difference between zero and one. At one point in my life, I had come to terms with the likelihood that I might never have a baby. So, I have more that I dared hope for. . . But I still feel jealous of pregnancy announcements. I guess you could say that I am thankfully jealous, or am I jealously thankful???

choco_lab

Hasn't stopped haunting me yet.  I get that sting whenever I hear someone is pregnant.. especially those that it happens on "the first try".

Mouseygail

I just found out this morning that friends of ours are expecting and I was pleasantly surprised that I was just happy for them!  I think it might have something to do with the fact that she is older and I was afraid that it might take them a while though.  I'm guessing that I will normally feel the sting!