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Mouseygail
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Really struggling tonight...
Mouseygail
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It's hitting me hard how quickly the last six months have gone...and how much I am missing out on by being a working mom. Ugh. No point to this, I just can't stop crying tonight, ever since he went to bed, way too early. The nights are sooo fast and the weekends are over in a flash 
. I knew you guys would understand though.
. I knew you guys would understand though. This discussion has been closed.
Re: Really struggling tonight...
Hugs, sweetie....
I understand.
I had this same breakdown last week. It is so hard, but you are doing the best you can by your little man.
You are doing the best you can....noone ever warned us about the "guilt". I feel guilty everyday walking out the door to work, but the best feeling is coming home and seeing her shining face, that gets me through each and everyday!!
Dx: PCOS, Anovulation, RPL
Born via emergency c/s February 9, 2008 - 9lbs, 3 oz!!!!
TTC# 2 since February 2010 - BFP #1 Sept 2010-(5mg Femara, 1500mg Met, Ovridel) Missed M/C at 10w2d, discovered at 13w2d, D&C at 14w
BFP # 2 - February 2011-(1500mg Met, HCG Injection) Missed M/C at 10w1d, discovered at 10w3d, D&C at 11w...RPL testing came back all normal.
Trying again. June 2011 - Clomid/1500 mg Met / Baby Aspirin - BFFN!
July 2011 Femara/1500mg Met/ Baby Aspirin - c/p
August 2011 - Femara/1500mg Met/ Baby Aspirin - c/p
September 2011 - Puregon/ 1500mg Met/ Baby Aspirin - BFFN!!!!
((HUGS))
I head back to work next week, and I had a breakdown tonight for almost the same reason. This working mom thing is going to be hard! Hang in there - Jones loves his mama and yes time flies, but it is only going to get better and better.
Oh no, sweetie! I totally understand. It's so hard sometimes, but you are a great mom and I know you pack a lot of love into what little time you get to spend with Jones during the week. Your little man is lucky to have such a great mom!!
(((hugs)))
I'm sorry you are having a rough time.
I get so much leave and always say I'm going to take more long weekends to spend time with G but can never seem to get it planned before something else work related takes all my time. Stinks.
Hang in there, we're all doing the best we can and making the choices that are going to be best for our families in the long run.
Hugs!!! I hope I didn't add to it today with my FB post :-(
Yes it goes fast but you know what- it just gets better. Each age is better than the last!
I'm sure working full time is hard- but you are doing it to make his life better. I wish we could afford some things that we can't because I can't work... so some SAHM's have guilt too.
You have lots and lots of years with Jones and we can all tell how much you love him!
Married 8.13.2005, M/C 12/8/06- 5 weeks, M/C 2/27/07- 7 weeks, M/C w/ D&C 8/10/09-6.5 weeks *Charles Lawrence born 5/2/08 @ 3:14am, 7lb 8oz, 20.5 inches. Clomid, Crinone and baby aspirin. *Alexandra Claire born 9/14/10 @ 9:52am 6lb 14oz, 20.5 inches. Femara, Crinone and baby aspirin.
You are doing the best you can mama. I went back to work FT for eight months (after 12 weeks mat leave) - and then cut back to 4 days a week (32 hours.) It was an option that had been presented to me when I asked to work from home one day a week when I first went back - request denied - but the PT 4 day a week option was put on the table. I lost 20 percent of my salary when I took my employer up on it. And I feel it every month - hoo boy! But we had recently paid off some debt - re-fi'ed at a great rate and started saving money there - so it wasn't too ugly. It's just one day that I got back - in a perfect world - I would have cut back to 3 days a week (but that option was not offered) - but it helps. I was fortunate that I was able to exercise the option I did - and my heart breaks for working mamas who are struggling - emotionally and physically - to keep up with a more difficult work schedule than I have. It is not easy, this working mama deal. It is not easy.
HUGE hugs to YOU.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
I had this break down today when I had to go in on what should have been a snow day and my Dh got to stay home with Jack.
It's hard, and it sucks. There is no way around it. I have searched high and low for a way to not have to work but at the end of the day if I want Jack to grow up in this house that I picked out especially for him. I have to work. I was putting Jack to sleep at 9pm so that we had time with him, but like Jones he has decided he needs an earlier bed time. It stinks that by the time we get home, feed him diner, and give him a bath it's time for bed
I do try to make the absolute most of our weekends though, even if that means we just hang out in his play room in our jammies for the day.
Just know you're not alone, and Jones will be ok. He will love you just the same and knows no different. It's harder on us then them.
((hugs))
~12/05 * 7/06 * 12/06 * 4/07 * 10/08~
"When the world says, "Give up" hope whispers, "Try one more time"
After 4yrs, 5 IUI's, 2 IVF's, 2 FET's, PGD, and 5 losses our little miracle is finally here!
You and me both hun.
4 Fresh IVF cycles + 1 FET where embies didn't survive the thaw = 2 perfect little men!
sFET 11/9/11 - Beta 11/18 BFP!
Ditto. It is so hard. I don't know what type of work you do, but I feel like too that I am WAY less devoted to my job (I'm a teacher) and because the demands on me keep getting greater and greater, I am actually starting to dislike my job. It isn't a good feeling.
Hang in there - your sweet boy knows you love him!
I totally understand! Why do the have to grow up so fast?? I've had plenty of these meltdowns, but they are coming more regularly now that DS is almost one!
Hugs, mama.