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Middle name change...

leneae10leneae10 member
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So we've decided against using Isaac's angel brother's middle name (Daniel) and instead giving him his "own" middle name of Nolan.

It's been a really difficult decision, but on second thought, I feel like I would be naming him (after Noah Daniel) for myself rather than for Isaac...  I don't want him to have to live up to a standard that doesn't really exist.  I hope that makes sense. 

In NO way do I think it's wrong to honor a lost LO, I just can't make up my mind on how it will affect Isaac in the future.  I think if he's touched enough by his angel brothers, he may one day use their names for his own son..

I think way too much!

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Re: Middle name change...

  • MrsManning10MrsManning10
    I think Isaac Nolan is beautiful!
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  • shaysmom05shaysmom05 member

    I understand where you're coming from with wanting the middle name Daniel, but I can relate to not wanting it at the same time.

    Of course, it's never a bad idea to honor a lost one, but I think in this case, it's best to let little Isaac have his own identity. I'm pretty sure you will tell him about his angel brothers as he grows up. When he gets older, if he wants to choose those names for his children, he's welcome to it.

    Personally, I couldn't use the same names for either of my girls that I had chosen for the babies I had lost. It was my way of letting it go and telling myself that no matter how much I miss my angels, the momentos won't bring them back. Basically, I wanted Shay and Molly to have their own fresh start without being held down by their siblings' legacies. (If that even makes sense.)

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  • Jessicaanne_1@yahoo.comJessicaanne_1@yahoo.com

    I can understand your reason for wanting to change his name. I love the name Nolan, I have known to people with that name and they were both awesome!

     

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  • AGFasoAGFaso
    I completely understand.  We are flip flopping on using names we picked out for the first pregnancy... Still don't know what we're going to do, but we really like the names!
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  • rjl07rjl07
    I think it's a beautiful name.  I totally understand where you are coming from and I think it makes sense.
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  • spincat9spincat9 member
    I'm sure that was a really hard decision for you.  Isaac Nolan is a fantastic name and I totally can understand your reasoning for wanting to give him a deliberately different name. 
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