breaking bad behavior advice?

beccabrad

Since Kamille has started daycare she has picked up some bad behavior.  She has been throwing some major tantrums if she doesn't get what she wants and completely lacks any form of patience and has a complete melt down.  Throwing herself to the floor and screaming and crying.  She did *some* of this before starting daycare, but not to the extreme she is now.  It's ridiculous, almost like she's possessed.

I asked her teacher yesterday if there were any kids in her class who act that way and apparently there are 2, but one in particular is really bad, so it seems she has picked up on this lovely behavior.  Luckily she doesn't act like this at daycare, just saves it for home I guess

How do I break her of this?  I've ignored her, I've tried talking to her, distracting her, reprimanding her, I don't know what else to do. Advice?

Bride7-14-07

Landon has done this at home before. He did it for about a week and it just stopped. I always ignored him. Jalen would always look at him confused and would grab a paci and shove it in his mouth. HA! I think his tantrum was caused by his schedule being mest up and teething. Hope it's just a phase with K. Toddlers are fun aren't they. :-)

NDwife07

I don't think there's a good way of breaking kids of this kind of behavior. She's very frustrated because she doesn't yet understand that her needs and wants can't always be addressed immediately. She doesn't have a sense of time.

In reading Touchpoints and other child development/behavior stuff, it seems like the thing not to do is always give her what she wants immediately. Ignore her tantrum while letting her know that you understand she's upset, and that it's ok to be mad.

I think this is a phase that most kids go through at some point.

FWIW, Ella does this, and only at home. The author of Touchpoints says that saving this kind of behavior at home means they trust you enough to display all of their emotions. 

fruitcakes

I'm of absolutely no help.  We have the same issue and I have yet to figure out what works. 

IU_baby

It honestly sounds like normal toddler behavior to me.  Is daycare wearing her out so she's tired earlier?  I know the tantrums are 10x worse when T is tired. 

I try to talk to him to get him to tell me what he needs or wants, but if it's just a tantrum, we ignore them  and he eventually stops. 

lemen99

While I have no personal experience, I agree with the others!

I hope it gets better and it's a short-lived phase!