HELP! She told me _why_ she's not pooping in the potty....

sommerrayne

"Because I don't get anything. When I pee, I get a sticker. I don't get anything for pooping." (despite the fact she DOES get candy and TWO stickers for pooping - its been so long since she pooped on the potty, she apparently doesn't remember.)

What do I do now?! We've reassured her she DOES get a candy cane (her choice) when she poops on the potty. I told her, "You should TRY IT, you'll see...you get TWO stickers and a candy cane!" (she likes to be "challenged"). But that's all I've got....

Thoughts?!

Cassian

Maybe tell her you will take her to Chuck E Cheese if she poops on the potty for a week. Make it a big trade for a big chunk of pooping.

 

Cassian

Oh, and that is progress! I can't believe she actually told you. Maybe "someday" is closer than you thought!

howleyshell

Put the rewards by the toilet so she can see them.

If the candy canes are wrapped put one in her hand when she's on the toilet and tell her she can open it after she gets wiped, flushes and washes up.  Doesn't get much more tangible than that!

This is GREAT news!

Knowing what's up is half the battle!!!

From here you can either remind of the current reward or find a new one that's gonna push her over the top with motivation.

GL!!! 

sommerrayne

I can't believe there _IS_ a reason! I mean I've asked her before but not for a long while. I can't believe she actually has a whole reason thought out, remembered it and immediately articulated it.

PS: She has no idea what Chuckie Cheese is! LOL

efooey

Cassian:

Maybe tell her you will take her to Chuck E Cheese if she poops on the potty for a week. Make it a big trade for a big chunk of pooping.

 

Good thinking, but there is no way she can wait a week for a reward - my dd would never go for that!  She's not quite ready to delay the reward.

I'm with Howley - and if she won't go for that, maybe mommy or daddy can go and they get rewarded with stickers and candy.  If she sees you getting the reward she'll realize how it works.  A full year after being potty trained my dd still asks for 2 cookies every time she poops.  Now quite sure how to wrap that up!

E

sommerrayne

efooey:

maybe mommy or daddy can go and they get rewarded with stickers and candy.  If she sees you getting the reward she'll realize how it works. 

I'm really glad you said that. I told DH that I'm going to show her MINE every single time and then eat candy in front of her (I did that the other day and even "let" her unwrap the candy for me while constantly saying - "You could have this WHEN you poop in the potty!"). DH is on board although he's MASSIVELY private....Ahhhh, the things we forego for kids!

Cassian

efooey:

Cassian:

Maybe tell her you will take her to Chuck E Cheese if she poops on the potty for a week. Make it a big trade for a big chunk of pooping.

 

Good thinking, but there is no way she can wait a week for a reward - my dd would never go for that!  She's not quite ready to delay the reward.

I'm with Howley - and if she won't go for that, maybe mommy or daddy can go and they get rewarded with stickers and candy.  If she sees you getting the reward she'll realize how it works.  A full year after being potty trained my dd still asks for 2 cookies every time she poops.  Now quite sure how to wrap that up!

E

Good point, I forget that kids don't do well with long waits.

I just used Chuck E Cheese as an example.

The other ideas sound really good though. I like the holding of the candy cane.

howleyshell

efooey:

 A full year after being potty trained my dd still asks for 2 cookies every time she poops.  Now quite sure how to wrap that up!

E

 

We were in the same boat.

AND... because we had 2 training so close together the older one wanted treats when he saw the younger one getting them.  Dylan got rewarded for using the potty for an embarrassing length of time!

What finally worked for weaning off treats was simply telling them that when the M&M bag was empty we were all done with treats for peeing.

Then with overnight training as soon as the box of 'Nilla wafers was empty we were all done.

 (we told them this all the way thru the bag and the box of course so it wasn't a bad shock to them on the day they turned up empty).

LisaMarisa

I was going to recommend putting her reward where she can see it.  Good luck!