I don't know what to do/expect now (warning-DD siggy pic)

livy91606

It took us over a year TTC with our first daughter, so we were beyond shocked/excited when we found out we were pregnant the first month of trying for DC #2.  I am supposed to be 6 weeks today but it never really sank in and felt real that we were pregnant.  I feel numb.

Last night I woke up with pretty painful cramping and lower back pain.  I got up and went to the restroom and saw brown spotting when I wiped.  I was up every hour checking to see if the spotting stopped, but it only got worse.

By this morning, I had bright red bleeding (more than spotting, but not super heavy).  I called the Dr office and left a message with the nurse line.  She called back and said it sounded like I was miscarrying.  She said she would talk to the Dr and see if they wanted me to come in or just wait it out.  I haven't heard back yet.

 I am sitting here in pain, bleeding is getting heavier.  I know there is nothing I can do at this point, but I just feel completely helpless.

I wanted this baby so much. 

What should I expect now?  Will the pain get worse?  Do you think the Dr. will want me to come in?  Will I know when the miscarriage is over, or am I just waiting for the bleeding to stop?  I'm just scared and incredibly sad.  My mom and DH are trying to be supporitive but saying things like "It wasn't meant to be" and "It happens" aren't making me feel any better.  Thanks for listening. 

Ginkeez

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.  It's heartbreaking, and most people don't know what to say.  There really isn't much anyone can say to make you feel better.  It's awful that it's happening, and it's so sad and confusing. 

I had a miscarriage a bit later than you, but I don't think they should be too different.  Once the baby/placenta/cord passed, it stopped hurting and the bleeding lightened a bit, though I did bleed for a couple weeks.  I don't think you will bleed that long.  I think once your baby passes, the pain should subside a bit.  Your doctor will likely want you to come in to make sure you don't need a follow up d&c, and he will want to check your hCG levels to make sure they get back to zero. 

Again, I am so sorry.  I know it's so hard to go through, and it stinks that we are powerless to stop it.

npilcher506

I am so sorry. It is an awful thing to have to wait out. I would ask them to see you and give you something to help out with the pain. No one should have to experience this, let alone have to feel to feel the physical pain if it can be helped. Again, I am so sorry. Best wishes to you.

taurus424

so sorry for your loss.

It is hard no matter what point of the pregnancy you are in.

Hugs

livy91606

Thank you for your advice andd support.

This has been a challenging day.  I'm still cramping/bleeding and the lower back pain has come back strong again.

I called the Dr again and they are having me come in for blood draws today and Wednesday.  The nurse tried to sound positive saying that many women experience bleeding and turn out to have healthy pregnancies, but just knowing the pain I'm in and seeing how much bleeding I'm having, I really have no hope that this is a viable pregnancy.

Froggy76

I had a missed m/c, so I can't answer your questions about bleeding, but I just wanted to say I am so sorry that you're going through this.

JThomas221

I am so sorry this is happening to you. It must be very hard to have to experience this without any solid answers. ((Hugs.))

livy91606

Beta results today were 99.  The nurse told me that if I was really 6 weeks pregnant, they should be a min of 1,000  (I know 100% when we conceived, so that's not really a question).  I go back tomorrow to make sure it is going down and that I am successfully mc naturally.

I'm now passing golf ball size clots, however the cramping is finally letting up, thank God.  I'm ready for this part to be over....