Do/ did you "get away" with stuff while pregnant?

GuitaristsGirl

People (read: Men) love to tell stories about women (read: their wives) who go completely BSC while pregnant.  I mean, it's the stuff of water cooler talk -- the women who send their husbands out at 2:00 a.m. for some crazy craving, or who fly off the handle and throw pizza boxes at their husbands' heads (allegedly a true story told by DH's coworker).  You know what I mean.

Now, let me say that I think such behavior is completely ridiculous.  There is no excuse for acting like a complete idiot and basically using and abusing your husband.  I'll also say that I was put on the pill at a young age for medical reasons, and so never really experienced PMS - so I've never "bought" people's claims of mood swings, hormones, or etc.  (Which, while overused, can be legit, I now realize.)  I've never "blamed" anything on being pregnant, pregnancy brain, or any variation thereof. 

That said.  I was the first to admit that my patience was a little thin this morning.  While nothing major is going on, there are plenty of what some would consider to be "reasons" - I have a very active 10 month old.  I'm working too much.  DH is traveling too much.  Oh, oh, and I have a horrible cold and of course can't take anything, and it keeps me from sleeping.  And I'm 26 weeks pregnant.  So make of all that what you will!  But - I was trying.  I really, really was trying.   

And - I don't know. . . I just know that, as the day went on and I felt like DH was being extra hard on me (not cutting me any slack), the thought crossed my mind -- don't I get to get away with anything because I'm pregnant????  I'm not looking for a free pass to be a royal b!tch or anything - I just wanted to feel, for a minute, like I was being cut a little bit of slack!  I wanted to tell DH that, seeing as how no object had ever been hurled at his head, he needed to appreciate just how good he had it   (Joking!  As I said, such action would be inexcusable.)

*sigh*

What about you?  Was your DH extra understanding and let you "get away" with things when you were pregnant?

KYRN

In a word, No.  I pretty much feel the same as you, and DH would never put up with me throwing $hit at him etc.  He's good to me but not exactly pampering or overly understanding.

ETA: and yes I think you deserved some slack today, pregnant or not everyone has bad days. 

laura&dan05

DH was just telling me how low maintanance and patient I am when I'm pg.  While I feel like being pg can be tough at times I'm really lucky that I have an "easy" pregnancy.  I also think it helps that DH just naturally steps up and helps out without me having to ask for much.  He's also good at listening to me complain if I'm having a rough day without giving me a hard time.  If there are days when I am more high strung or bitchy I think it would be because that's just my personality not because I'm pregnant.

LMK8605

I don't think I tested the rule of "getting away with something" for the majority of my pregnancy - but I will say that after my surgery at 8 weeks pg DH had the fairly gruesome task of cleaning out my incision when it split open (it looked like a bullet wound).  He had to come home from work on his lunch break to clean it for me (had to be done 4x a day, he didn't even get to eat most days).  So maybe it wasn't a frivilous request - but he did it without complaining...usually. 

I think the only other thing was that he would put palmer's cocoa butter on my belly when I was huge (in hopes of preventing some stretch marks ..haha).  I think he didn't mind that though, he got to feel them kick sometimes.

 Who am I kidding.. we were both so blissfully happy - he would have volunteered to do anything

laura1

Not really things like that, but we moved when I was 38 weeks pregnant with #2 and I didn't have to help.  DH packed most of the boxes (I did a few), moved our stuff one weekend when I was at work (we had family and friends help), and basically unpacked as well.  But my OB specifically told me not to be moving heavy boxes (or even really pack them), and I gave birth at 39 weeks - it didn't really allow for much time to unpack - and really I was keeping DS occupied!  I did some unpacking that week, but after I gave birth, I tried to do too much and had worsening pain and bleeding so I had to back off.  

It was the easiest move I ever had! 

cjsbdl

No, and DH and I just had words about his very subject this weekend. I don't expect to be treated with kid gloves, but a little compassion and extra help in light of the fact that I'm 8 months pregnant with his child and also taking care of a very busy 16-month old would be nice. Or at the very least some recognition that this is a tough job I'm doing right now (even though I feel incredibly blessed!).

Smudges*Mom

I did not "get away" with diva-like behavior, but DH was very patient with me and my fatigue. I never felt good during my pregnancy, the smallest task exhausted me. Fortunately, my life was such that little was required of me, so I was able to get away with doing nothing for nearly 42 weeks. I never sent DH out for ice cream at odd hours (when he was home) but, I also didn't clean the house or cook much (who am I kidding, at all) either. I think that he recognized that pushing me would do no good.

I would think that regular diva-like behavior gets old fast, but, IMO, the women that get away with it also get away with similar behavior when they are not pregnant, too.

sasa625

The only thing I "got away" with was not making dinner or cleaning the house as often. DH honestly would have been fine running to the store at midnight to get me ice cream (probably because he wanted it too ) but I would have never asked!

There were days that I was more tired/stressed/whiny, but I have those days when I'm not pregnant! DH was really sweet and patient with me during my pregnancy, but I never pulled the "but I'm pregnant" card on him (at least that I can remember )

sweetpea18

Funny that you asked this because dh and I just had a conversation about this. Nothing phased me with my first pregnancy and life went on as usual. I worked, cleaned, cooked, etc. In fact, I drove myself from work to the hospital when I was in labor. This pregnancy has been much different. I've felt horrible and work has been incredibly stressful. I'm an occupational therapist, so work is also physically demanding. We have a 22 month old to chase after and take care of. And to top it all off, I got put on bedrest. There are certain things that I just won't do because of the bedrest and dh threw a fit (things like carrying laundry up and down the stairs.). I finally had to tell him that, while he does do a lot and I appreciate it, I need to be cut a little slack right now. (I'm very independent and a self-admitted workaholic so this is new to both of us!) I've always hated when women use their pregnancy as an excuse to get away with things, and now I feel like I'm one of those women

Mouseygail

I just cried a lot...I was the biggest sap ever   and DH was fantastic when I got put on bedrest and even when I wasn't on it, he was constantly yelling at me to take it easier because it seemed like whenever I didn't, problems popped up.  I'll be interested to see if/when I get pregnant again, how different things are.