SD's squirrely BF has to do jail time!

j+k

After watching the news, and all this talk about the going in the hole, banks collapsing and being sold, and how hard it will be to get loans and all...I thought about SD and her school loans. So  tried calling her last night. I got Josh's mom.

She said SD was not there and working a lot of hours. I asked for her to just leave her a note and let her know to call me. 

SD called around noon.  We talked about her loans and aid and she has heard nothing yet. She's been too busy working to look into scholarships. I told her this is SO important that she do this because I fear she will not be able to get a loan as easy any more.

We talked about her finances and I told her do not get a credit card until she knows she is financially ready for one. I told her to save her money as much as she can and spend it wisely. 

She told me she was going to call me when she finds out what loans she can get. I told her I'd be happy to look at them but to sit down with her financial aid advisor and ask them. 

I asked how things were going there from last week. She said fine but that Josh will probably have to do jail time. they don't know for how long but because he skipped out on probation and was gone out of state for almost two years - more than likely the judge will sentence him to some time.  BA-HA!!  I do not feel sorry for this kid.  I told her that's probably best for him. Surely it won't be long, but maybe if he gets a taste of jail, he'll learn to stay out of it. She agreed. 

I talked to her about staying there at his mom's while he's in jail and told her to be respectful, treat his mom well, pay her some money whenever she can, help put, be courteous and be responsible. She said she would.  I told her this woman has kindly opened her home to you. Respect it. She said his mom "loves her to death and I love her to death and it will be fine."  I thought but didn't say, "Oh really? that's now what it sounded like a few weeks ago!"  But I just said instead, "that's good." 

She asked if we would be coming when her grandmother dies.  This is her maternal grandmother.  I don't know why she thinks we would go, but I told her that I didn't think so because money is so tight right now, but that we would be there in the next year sometime during the off season when flying isn't so expensive.  I told her money is way too tight right now.  She seemed to understand. 

We had a REALLY good talk about things.  First good talk in a long time. She seemed to listen and respect what I was saying and I tried not to sound preachy or lecture her. I just told her kindly some advice I thought she needed to be aware of. 

Oh. She's going to try and buy a car and from the way she was talking, she's being really smart about it.

Seems to me she's growing up a little bit. I am crossing my fingers it continues.

xmaryrickx

Well, that is great. I hope that she continues to take baby steps in the right direction. At least she is working, and it sounds like she is making good decisions. It is also a good thing that she agreed with you about the bf going to jail. That could have easily sent her over the edge.
Good job, J+K!

SUwife

I just wanted to say "yay" to jailtime.  I know it's probably wrong of me, but oh well.

And I wouldn't want to go to the funeral, it could be awkward for BM and her family, and that is not a time they need to be feeling that.  SD should understand that.