2nd question then i am done...for now.

taurus424

did anyone stop working after their loss? for a short time or permanently?

Right now I am off for a while. But truley contemplating not going back. i feel like after this i am tired of missing out on what my precious four year old does. I am tired of not being there for him and always relying on a baby sitter. does that make sense?

thanks

Fallon621

Yes!  After my loss I quit my job.  I just could not face going back to work and pretending to be "normal" Thank goodness that we do not NEED that money.  So yes that makes complete sense.  I also have a 5 year old son that I am now enjoying spending more time with! ((HUGS)) to you today.  I hope each day gets a little better for you and yours.

LifeInANutshell

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Given the fact that your baby lived until 22 weeks you qualify for your full FMLA time (6 weeks).  So if you want to take time off you can (if your employer covers it).

I chose to go back to work after only a week off, but right now its just DH and myself and we live in a city where I have zero close friends.  Work was my best choice (for me).

coreysmomma

I am so sorry for your loss.

I went back to work the day after my d&c.  I am a teacher and finals were the following three days, so I felt I could handle just administering tests.  I have a three day weekend this weekend, so I am hoping to get some rest and do nothing (except clean my house because I have neglected it for the last couple of weeks going through everything).  I will go back Tuesday and start trying to be normal again (as much as possible).

 Danielle

MegMeg0913

I took off for about 5 weeks and I think it was worth it.  My last two weeks I took because I really want emotionally ready to go back and face the world. 

npilcher506

I just wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss. I can understand not wanting to miss out on any moment of your little ones life. Best wishes to you in making your decision.