2nd miscarriage

jennredrn13

Hello.

I am new to thebump.com and wanted to share my experience/story to see if any one can help me or give me suggestions.  I am 25 years old.  My husband is 28 years old.  We have been trying to concieve since April of 2010.  I became pregnant in May of 2010.  I sadly miscarried in July of 2010.  The fetus never developed and I had a d&C because I was not miscarrying naturally.  We waited the three months and started trying again in Sept of 2010.  I became pregnant in Nov. 2010.  We were very excited! We got to see our baby and the heartbeat in dec. Well on January 3rd I started having back pains and thought it was related to my job (I am a nurse) but I called my OB/GYN to be safe.  He recommended that I come in and have an ultrasound.  I went in on January 5th and they could not find the babys heartbeat.  I was completely devasted.  It broke my heart.  The doctor immediately rushed me into his office and we discussed what I wanted to do.  At the time I was so upset I couldn't make a decision and just wanted to go home and process all the information.  However, I did get a HCG level drawn prior to leaving his office.  The next day my OB called me and reported that my HCG level was extremely high and he wanted me to come back in for another US just in case they missed the heartbeat or I had twins and maybe one was only detected.  I went back in January 7th and still no heartbeat, and no additional babies were detected.  He was now concerned I had developed a partial molar pregnancy.  I had no choice but to have a D&C again because he needed to test the tissue.  I had the D&C January 8th.  He was very concerned about me hemmorhaging.  I did lose 1.5 liters of blood. However, I did get to go home that day from the hospital. I was under strict orders. The bleeding and pain were much worse with this D&C.  I am a week out for the procedure today. Physically I am okay.  Emotionally I am a wreck.  I cry a lot and cannot understand why.  My OB called with the results of my pathology and reported that it was inconclusive on whether I had a partial molar or not.  So to be safe we are treating this as a partial molar pregnancy.  This means we cannot TTC until my HCG level is at zero for six months.  It seems like it will take forever.  I go Friday for my first HCG level since the D&C and I am anxious to see how quickly it is dropping.  My concern is that if this wasn't a partial molar that I do have some type of problem with being pregnant. It is apparent I have no problem getting pregnant just a problem with staying pregnant.  Any thoughts would be greatly apperciated.

 

I am deeply sorry for anyone who has loss a baby or having problems conceiving.  My heart is with you and I pray that you find peace and one day you get to hold your baby in your arms.

 

Thanks for taking the time to read.

Jenn

Deannabee78

I'm very sorry for both your losses. No one should have to go through that once let alone twice. I have a similar problem...I can get pregnant but have trouble staying pregnant. There is hope however as you can see from my siggy. Will your ob consider running more tests before you try again? I am still getting answers myself but wanted you to know that there are others who understand and have been there. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

adamfam

I am sorry for your losses and that you had to go through all of that.  That would be very frustrating to have to wait 6 months, but maybe in the meantime you could get some testing done as the pp suggests?  I just experienced my second miscarriage and I am having the recurrent pregnancy loss panel of bloodwork done.  I am not counting on that to give me any conclusive answers, but at least they can rule out some disorders or pinpoint it if I do have one (like the bloodclotting problems).  Since I miscarried naturally both times and there was nothing/not enough to test, so Ill never know if my losses were caused by chromosomal issues or what.  Anyway, its a sad club to which we belong, but I hope you can get some support here.

PiperS

I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds like a horrible experience with the ups and downs before finding out for sure. I have only had one pregnancy and one miscarriage. I can't imagine going through it again. I am so sorry for those of you had to.

You have to wait 6mos after your levels are at 0? That is frustrating but maybe it will be best for you to give your heart and your body time to heal. The only real advice I can give you is to allow yourself to grieve. It is such a heartbreaking experience!

 

LDW80

I am so sorry for your losses.  I had similar situation.  I miscarried at 13 weeks (baby stopped growning at 11wks).  I had a d&c the next day and bled a ton too.  My dr. kept me overnight because I lost so much blood and became anemic.  My dr. thought it was a molar pregnancy by the amount of bleeding during d&c and the deformity of the placenta.  THey have since ruled out the molar pregnancy but I never got answers as to why I bled so much (maybe they don't know either).  I am so nervous to get pregnant again for the sake of this happening again.  I really hope you didn't have a molar pregnancy and that you can get some more answers soon.  I would ask your dr. if you can get any testing done (if possible).  If you have any questions I would be glad to answer and try and help.  Please take care and GL with everything!

jennredrn13

Thank you all for your kind words.  My doctor said we can proceed with testing.  I have started bleeding again and passing clots. I'm a little over a week out from my D&C. Sunday night was very painful and I had  horrible cramping.  I am feeling better today. Just have a lingering headache and I think its stress related.  I have compiled tons of questions for my doctor who i see on Friday.  I am really hoping for answers.

 

TardS09

I'm so sorry to hear about all the problems that you've been having. That is a terrible thing to go through. It's bad enough to go through it once but to go through it a second time is horrible. I know what it feels like to be attatched to something so precious and lose it. My husband and I got pregnant just a couple of weeks after getting married in June of 2009. I'd had some spotting around my 5th week of my pregnancy, my doctor said that it wasn't anything to be concerned about and plenty of women have spotting in their first trimester. So I carried on with life. I went to the doctor for my 12 week appointment and the doctor couldn't hear the heartbeat, so she ordered a US and she found that I was only 7 weeks along. Come to find out that I had miscarried our first baby. But there was a strong heartbeat on this fetus and we were so excited. So once again we carried on with life. I felt great and didn't have anything to worry about. So I went in when I was 11 weeks and 6 days along and the doctor still couldn't hear the heartbeat. But she could feel that my uterus was tilted and not to be concerned , so the heartbeat would be hard to hear. She sent me home and told me to come back the next week to hear the heartbeat. The next day I woke up feeling great. Went to work and ended up miscarrying at work. This was Oct of 2009 and my husband and I are still trying to concieve, I've been to the doctor more times in the last year. I'm beyond devistated and worry that something is wrong. My doctors all seem to think that it's just a hormone thing, but I'm very skeptic. I really hope that everything gets better for you. I too pray that you someday get to hold your very own baby in your arms.

 

Alia

asmav33

My heart is broken for you.  I too have suffered a recent 3rd miscarriage. I have 2 dnc, and am scared of having another one, for the mere fact of it might be making me miscarry because of the invasive procedure. I am having no trouble of getting pregnant but unlike many women, I just can't stay pregnant.