Just how weird would this be? III and IV

deanbean

DS is named after DH, who is a Jr, so he is the III.  His nickname is a derivation of being the third.  Now if the new baby is a boy I'm afraid he'll feel left out for not sharing a name with his dad and grandpa like his big bro.  Would it be weird to name him IV?  His nickname will be the middle name so no one is actually going by the same name.  

I'm not worried about any mix ups since they will have different birth dates, ss# etc.  DH had not had this problem with his dad.  I'm just worried ppl will think we are crazy! 

HappyMrsK

IMHO it is weird. I think there are a lot of families who name the first son after the father so I don't think your second son would feel "left out" by not having his dad's name.

Maybe you could use your father's name or another relative on your side of the family to name him after if you think he will feel hurt by not being named after family.

Wish Upon A Star

I think it would be a little weird and really confusing.  I would suggest honoring another family member. What about from your family instead of DH's?

forensicmama

I don't mind Juniors and IIs and IIIs, etc. Especially when there are different nicknames like Nick, Nico and Cole.

ces25c

Yeah, that would be really strange.  If you're afraid of a son feeling left out, name him after another family member or something.  But... if you're so worried about this aren't you worried that if you have a daughter, she would feel left out too?

carolinag

like george forman?!? no. that would be totally weird. if there is a 4th, it should be the 3rd's son, therefore your grandchild. if you're worried i would try to find a really special name for your next child that has family significance. that way his name will be special as well in his own way. i really think you may be over thinking this one a bit and everything will be just fine.

starlight8323

deanbean:

  I'm just worried ppl will think we are crazy! 

This is a valid concern, because I would definitely think you are crazy.

This tradition has been going on for years and years, and has ocurred in thousands of families. Traditionally, the name is part of a birthright that the oldest son gets because he was born first. It's just the way things are. If you had a problem with this tradition, you shouldn't have named your DS1 as the third.

 

Do you think they should just let Prince Harry be King of England too, so he doesn't feel left out?

AwBeth

carolinag:

like george forman?!? no. that would be totally weird. if there is a 4th, it should be the 3rd's son, therefore your grandchild. if you're worried i would try to find a really special name for your next child that has family significance. that way his name will be special as well in his own way. i really think you may be over thinking this one a bit and everything will be just fine.

This was my first thought too.  Your son will definitely understand.  And probably be grateful that he has his own name. 

strangebird

I understand where you're coming from. Worrying over one child feeling left it is exactly the sort of thought that has led me to support naming siblings with some sort of unifying theme, whether it be origin, length, or initials. I even have a rule "all the same or all different."

That said, I'd like to apply it to your situation, but it just sounds really silly. It's tradition (and has been for hundreds of years) to name the firstborn son after his father . . . most children encounter that tradition and grow up understanding it. I just really can't see it becoming a point of contention. Your second son is not likely to end up in therapy 20-years from now because he wasn't named after his father, kwim?

I think you're over-thinking it. Perhaps give him his father's name as a middle name, just so he has a little piece of that tradition, but don't make him a fourth. It will be awkward, there probably will be confusion and it doesn't really make sense.

sarahbeth27

carolinag:

like george forman?!? no. that would be totally weird.

This made me laugh. Really hard.

Funny... but very, very true. Don't do it. It would be way too weird.

SailorGray

That would be totally weird...just give him a special name, too, like a man in your family that you truly love.

Puppylove*85

That would be really strange.  And honestly, I don't think that being the second sibling to be given the same name would be much of an honor for your son.

Mrs.BigCountry

Puppylove*85:

That would be really strange.  And honestly, I don't think that being the second sibling to be given the same name would be much of an honor for your son.

 

This!  I also like the suggestion of using your father's name. 

ubermoose

Totally weird!

I like the suggestion for using a different family name for you other son.

nonnahs_sisk

I would think its a little weird.  I would make their first name his middle name.  Im sure as he gets older, he will be thankful u didn't do that!  My ex is a II and he hated it.  He was constantly trying to get cc's straightened out with sears and menards and stores like that.  They would charge the wrong accts for things.  It sucked!  He said he would never do that to anybody.  Plus he always felt like he was expected to be just like his dad!  In all honesty, his dad was a great guy, and he is a jerk.  lol!  He should have tried to be more like his dad!

Notwifezilla7

To answer your question "How weird would this be?"

WEIRD!

Pick a different name. Name the kid after your father or grandfather. Or maybe this will be a moot point and you'll have a girl!

deanbean

Thanks for the feedback everyone.  I think its too weird to do.  I think it will seem too narcissistic and we really aren't like that.  Anyways its so early it could be a girl anyways.  If its a boy I like the idea of keeping the same initials or something.  Naming after someone in my family won't really work because none of the names would go together.