Embryo donation/adoption?

LV2006

I'm usually a lurker, so I hope you'll forgive me just barging in here with a question...

After 5 losses, almost a year of trying again, and a lot of heartbreak, we recently decided to give up TTC another child.  IVF and adoption are sadly not economically feasible (I would have to go back to work, and we are firmly committed to me being a sahm until our girl is in school full time).  I was doing my best to be happy with what we have and to give up on the dream of another child.  And THEN...I read something about embryo donation and honestly thought it might be the answer for us.  My heart is pounding.

There is so much info out there and I am overwhelmed.  Has anyone researched it or pursued it?  I would love to hear your experiences...

Thank you.

baze2

I have/am researching it along with DE and adoption. 

Depending on the agency you use, you may have to do all the prep work that you would have to do for adoption. From what I can see it costs about the same as a domestic private adoption (not to dash your hopes...) I am still in the process of researching it all. I found a couple of agencies on line. Let me know if you find something different.

 

LV2006

Thanks so much for your response.  I found an RE group really near me that seems to have a great program.  The prices listed seem really reasonable, but of course I would have to find out if there are any non-medical expenses involved.

I am looking forward to telling DH about the possibilities and maybe setting up a consult!

 

baze2

Certainly check it out!...And pass on any good info. A trip to Cali would be worth it for me if you find good news!

LV2006

Here's a link to the program I found.  The cost seems really reasonable, and they have a guarantee/refund program too. 

https://www.californiaconceptions.com/

Deanne Shehane

I asked the question after we had a failed 1st IVF with nothing frozen. We were looking for a cheaper route or a better success rate. The domestic adoption we looked into was around $30,000 but we didn't research it very thoroughly.  And IVF with donor eggs was about $22,000(including meds) where as IVF was $16,000(including meds) for a regular cycle. It actually costs more than IVF because you are paying for someone else to do what you would have done plus you have to get yourself ready for the transfer and pay the donor's fee. We ended up doing one more round of IVF and it worked with two frosties for later. We were totally OOP as well. The meds for us cost about $4000 a cycle. Some pharmaceutical companies do cycles where they will provide the meds. Look online or in Conceive Magazine. It usually requires sending a letter, etc. I read an article on it once. Good luck with your journey. 

Deanne Shehane

LV2006:

Here's a link to the program I found.  The cost seems really reasonable, and they have a guarantee/refund program too. 

https://www.californiaconceptions.com/

My Dr practiced in California and said it was one of the more expensive states for IVF so I would definitely shop around. Make sure you check into the guarantee/ refund programs. I was 39 when we started and I was too old to qualify. I really hope you find a great program!

LV2006

Deanne Shehane:

LV2006:

Here's a link to the program I found.  The cost seems really reasonable, and they have a guarantee/refund program too. 

https://www.californiaconceptions.com/

My Dr practiced in California and said it was one of the more expensive states for IVF so I would definitely shop around. Make sure you check into the guarantee/ refund programs. I was 39 when we started and I was too old to qualify. I really hope you find a great program!

Max age for this guarantee program is 54 - finally something I'm not too old for!  It appears in California this type of program is not considered an actual adoption, so the only expenses are medical (per my research, still have to confirm with an expert). 

Cost is way less than for "normal" IVF because someone else has already gone through retrieval and fertilization and all that is left is transfer. 

By some stroke of luck, I actually have some IF insurance coverage - just have to see if something like this would be at least partially covered. 

Deanne Shehane

LV2006:

Deanne Shehane:

LV2006:

Here's a link to the program I found.  The cost seems really reasonable, and they have a guarantee/refund program too. 

https://www.californiaconceptions.com/

My Dr practiced in California and said it was one of the more expensive states for IVF so I would definitely shop around. Make sure you check into the guarantee/ refund programs. I was 39 when we started and I was too old to qualify. I really hope you find a great program!

Max age for this guarantee program is 54 - finally something I'm not too old for!  It appears in California this type of program is not considered an actual adoption, so the only expenses are medical (per my research, still have to confirm with an expert). 

Cost is way less than for "normal" IVF because someone else has already gone through retrieval and fertilization and all that is left is transfer. 

By some stroke of luck, I actually have some IF insurance coverage - just have to see if something like this would be at least partially covered. 

Oh, wow, that is great news. I thought they had fertilized eggs just hanging around for donation but my Dr said you have to pick a donor from a book just like adoption. My RE office actually has a partner in Houston they work with because in Louisiana they don't allow egg donation. Good luck!