Question for you ladies...

molRN

Especially for those of you who have walked this road before... How did you know you were ready to try again (after being given the green light)?  My pg was not a planned one; DH and I had just decided that we were going to stop preventing.  It just feels like even if we us the same method, that we can't ever really go back to just that "whatever" sort of reality.  I know it sounds crazy, but it's like I just don't want to have to start all over.  I was due at the perfect time (in our minds) and I don't know if I want to wait that long to try in order to be due around the same time.  Also, DH and I had originally thought we were going to wait until after our 2yr anniversary, but it's like we both realize that maybe we were more ready that we had thought before.  UGGG!  It's just so complicated now.  How do you know when you are ready?  What sort of timing considerations do you make?

ekmOC

Someone gave me a piece of advice: " wait as long as you can, but no longer." 

There are so many considerations.  First and foremost, your physical health.  You may need to wait a certain period of time for physical recovery, depending on how far along you were.  Next, psychological repair, you may be ready sooner or later than than the physical aspect allows.  Other considerations may be your age, any difficulties conceiving in the past, timing according to your preferred due date, financial or job considerations, etc. 

I think the advice I heard makes a lot of sense - give yourself as much time to heal as possible, but if you think it's time, go for it. 

Jeilene

DH and I know we want to be parents, so trying again was not an issue.  What was an issue was the thought of the feeling of replacement.  Many conversations with God later, I have come to find peace. I had to wait 2 cycles before TTC again after my D&C, we have not been blessed as of yet, and in my experience, I did not make peace with our loss until their birth date came and went last September.  Good luck to you. 

PiperS

We weren't TTC either but now that I was pg and we got so used to the fact that we were going to have a LO so now we really want one. We are going to TTC after my first AF. I don't think I will really be able to heal until I am pg again. I know I can't replace LO but I feel like if I get pg again before my due date then that is the LO that was meant to be here with me. I feel so empty now.

kmn3

We're trying again as soon as the doctor says it's ok (probably 2-3 cycles from now).  After being pregnant, we're realized we are 100% and want a baby as soon as we are able.  It's the time in our life...