Waiting for my 2nd miscarriage

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I?ve been thinking of posting here for a while but I?m finally doing it? Two and a half weeks ago my doctor said it looked like I would miscarry. One week ago he said it was definite.  The embryo stopped developing at five weeks and I should be just over nine weeks along now.   I?ve been bleeding for about three weeks but I haven?t yet miscarried. The doctor advised me to wait to miscarry naturally because I had a D&C in August. If it doesn?t happen in another week we?ll reassess, but for now I?m waiting.

The wait is aggravating and distracting and I can?t really focus on anything else.  In addition to the bleeding I get cramps every day. They come and go but seem to be at their worst in the late afternoon.  I keep hoping it means things are beginning, but it hasn?t yet. 

I guess I?m just venting but I?m really sitting around waiting for something horrific to happen. Has anyone else been in this situation?just waiting? How long have you had to wait for? Has anyone had two consecutive D&Cs?

Thanks.

Fallon621

I do not know why no one has responded to this!  But I can guarentee that you have come to the right place for support.  I am so sorry that you are losing your baby and hope this process speeds up for you soon.  ((hugs))

Niftyroses

Yes, I did.  It was aweful.

At my 8 w U/S, the baby was one 6 w 4 d.  The doctor said that everything looked great, and that I was probably just wrong about the conception date.  But I KNEW.  I cried telling my family that something was wrong and everyone told me that every one feels that way and that everything would be fine.  The doctor did another u/s at around 11 w because I was so sure.  Well, unfortunately I was right, it was still 6 w 4 d.  I started bleeding and cramping that day (strangely enough) and I actually MC about a week later. 

I know it is really horrible waiting around for this, but if there is one small silver lining to the cloud, you have some time to emotoionally prepare.  I can't imagine how aweful it would be to think everything is fine and have  MC.  

I am so sorry for your loss.  Keep your doctor's emergency number on speed dial and I would ask for some pain medication now.  My MC started at 2 AM and I didn't get any pain meds until the pharmacy opened at 9.  In retrospect I should've gone to the ER, but I'm glad I was at home, but like I said, pain meds would've been wonderful.  

Feel free to ask me anything.....I mean really, anything.

lglf4

I just had my m/c last night (and still can't believe I managed to get to work today with no sleep!!), starting around 11:42pm--or that's when I woke up anyway.  I was in the same position as you are in now.  I knew 2 weeks ago at my 8 w appointment, and they confirmed it yesterday that the pregnancy had stalled and I need to pass the egg sac.  Luckily, my doctor had prescribed pain meds to go along with the Cytotec that I was going to take on Saturday until my body beat me to it.  If you're not comfortable waiting, my doctor recommended the Cytotec to move things along--so we don't have to deal with it unexpectedly at work or the grocery store, etc.  If anything though, I'd recommend having some serious pain meds handy.  Everyone is different, but all I was told is to expect that I'll have some heavy bleeding and cramps like a bad period--no true for me.  I truly felt like I must have been in labor last night.  I just felt waves of pain over and over for about 4-5 hours until all the clots were out.  I hope that your experience goes better, but I figure I should be honest because no one was honest with me.  I'm praying for you, and I hope that we're both expecting something wonderful later this year!!