Do you think it's tacky

jkmom007

To ask for gift cards as baby shower gifts? I don't really need alot as we have gotten pretty much everything except for a few things like a diaper bag, breast pump, diapers. I just dont want to tell everyone what I need and then end up getting multiples of things kwim?

Disneygeek77

In my opinion, it is ok as long as they ask you what you want/need.  Otherwise just smile, send a thank you note and return or donate anything you can't use. 

Temp984666312503071

Word of mouth - no, it isn't tacky.  If people ask you what you want, you can definitely say "gift cards would be great, thanks!".

But writing something like "gift cards only" on the invitation is tacky.  People ENJOY shopping for baby things.  And while I think we can all empathize with not wanting a zillion pink/blue blankets and onsies, you cannot demand guests to get you any one thing. 

If you do a registry, put the things you want on it and then there is usually a notes section where you could write "gift cards welcome" or "gift cards appreciated".

SarahTx5701

yes.

How would you even do that? I'd be grateful you are having a shower, this being your 4th baby and all. Whatever you get just return for store credit.

SarahTx5701

yes.

BeetleLinz1125

You could always register for a few items you think you will really need, and there is usually a place to put a note, you can say something like "Gift cards are always appreciated" to let them know that's an option too.

KyleTrigger

YES. It is very tacky to ask for gift cards for your shower. If your siggy is right and this is your fourth baby alot of people think it is very tacky to have a shower for anything but your first baby. So to ask for gift cards on top of that, ay yi yi. I would probably laugh at you behind your back if I got that invite. Just saying.

kabarbanel

I personally don't like to ask for anything specific.

jkmom007

This is my 4th, his first which is why his family is wanting to do it. I had already sent out the invites and the shower is next weekend so I wont have a chance to do a registry. It is only going to be about ten of us and that includes my daughter and I. I guess I will just leave it and let them buy whatever they want. I can always return items.. thanks for the input

kappanole

When people ask me what I "want" I always try to change the subject but sometimes they pin me down. If that's the case tell them gift cards are great, otherwise, be thankful for what people are willing to give and as pp said, return or donate what you can't use.

6fsn

Yes, it's tacky.

Did I read you sent your own invites?

SunDrop11

Like PP have said, usually when you set up a registry, there's a spot where you could say that gift cards are appreciated. Other than that, it is tacky.

niceybee05

I personally don't believe in registries I specifically asked for no gifts at my bachelorette party. I think people should not feel forced to buy you something from a list. That being said there are some people out there that really have no clue what to buy and ask. In that case I would def tell them you would prefer gift cards.

jkmom007

6fsn:

Yes, it's tacky.

Did I read you sent your own invites?

 Yes I did the invites because his mom is older and she thought it would be easier on her if I was to do them since it's only a couple of my friends and a few from his side of the family. And yes people are asking me what we need so therefor I thought I could just say gift cards considering these are my close friends not people I dont kinda know and just looking for a gift grab.

weelass24

If you have to ask...

Ivana_Stolichnaya

Asking for gift cards = Tacky

Sending out your own invites = Tacky

More than one shower with gifts = Tacky

 

No excuses...

pregaftertubal

i do think it's a bit tacky to ask for gift cards. 

but i also think if someone has offered or insisted on giving you a shower, no matter WHAT number child your on, it's ok!  if people don't approve, they don't go.  that simple.

Aprilynn0206

I would register somewhere that is really flexible on returns (even without a gift receipt) that way you can at least take back what you don't need and get your gift card that way.

HoolahZinger

jkmom007:

This is my 4th, his first which is why his family is wanting to do it. I had already sent out the invites and the shower is next weekend so I wont have a chance to do a registry. It is only going to be about ten of us and that includes my daughter and I. I guess I will just leave it and let them buy whatever they want. I can always return items.. thanks for the input

If people want to throw you a shower for your fourth LO, I think that is sweet (although I guess I am in the minority here). Just because it is baby number 4 doesn't mean the LO doesn't deserve a little "sprinkle!" You could always register online instead of go in store to do a registry. It takes a lot less time (I didn't go in store and I thought it was awesome). With the gifts, just be gracious and return the items you don't need. I would rather go that route than look like I'm fishing for gift cards.  

wall0307

Yes, I think it's tacky.  I personally hate giving cash or gift cards.