Freaking out From Work

bbakersgirl75

Ok Ladies... I'm not even allowed on this website from work... but I am.

I am completely freaking out. As you all know/don't know... I've been waiting to have my WTF from my Nov/Dec BFN IVF because the RE was out for surgery. Well I called today to check in on a date when he would be back and to schedule I was floored to find out that he ISN'T COMING BACK!!!!

The woman who schedules appointments informed me letters should go out this week, but he will no longer be back there. Um Hello??? You couldn't inform anyone earlier. What am I suppose to do now? She said he is starting his own private practive and I can follow him there, or meet with his partner at the same place I've been going to.

I feel abandoned! I haven't even had a chance to ask all of my leftover questions from failed cycle, and now he's gone!

I'm sure his (now former) partner is capable, but he was with me the whole cycle.

So now, I have to figure out do I want to follow him (which would add 30 minutes onto my already hour long travel time) or stay because I love the coordinator there and I'm established there.

Ok, that's it... that's my freakout!

vanessagorc

Wow i would be freaked out too!

I bet ur RE wasn't allowed to tell anyone he was leaving, under the partnership agreement. Same thing happened with my OB.

Im sure another RE can look at ur file, and do the WTF...but ur right, it won't be the same. 

So you have to decide, which is more important to you...the RE or the practice?  What does you gut say?

((HUGS)) for your stress!!!

Bella2u07

Oh sweets, I am so sorry you feel this way!  BIG (((HUGS)))

Everything will be ok, just calm down and breathe.  

If I were in your shoes, I would track down the RE that left, ask him the questions and if you really like him and want to stay with him...then follow him to his new practice, to me adding another 30 mins to stay with someone I like it no biggie.  At the same time, schedule a WTF/consult with the other RE and if you like what he has to say better then your current RE then stay where you are. 

Good luck!

missjul61

That totally sucks that they didn't inform his patients BEFORE he left. Sorry you're dealing w/ this.  I would make a consultation appt w/ him at his new practice since he's the best RE to answer questions about your last cycle.  Then decide from there if you want to start you next cycle at his new practice or go w/ his partner at his current practice. Sorry if I'm not giving logical advice since I've never been through an IVF, but that's what I'd do.

 Good luck to you. 

LCS040209

Ugh, how frustrating and stressful! I would feel abandoned too. 

((HUGS))

Best of luck in deciding what to do next. 

DoingItRight

Wow, what an awful thing to have happen. I cannot imagine having to start over. I drive over a hour to my appointments which eats up so much of your day. I hope that you are able to make the best decision and that in the end it all works out.

theworms

well that sucks cutie.

i would set up appt with him at new practice and have your WTF appt.

i would also make appt to meet with dr at your current practice and see what he has to say.

then i would make the decision of where to go.

sorry you have to deal with this.  ugh

Edwina.McDunnough

That really sucks, I'm sorry.

My GYN left her practice, but I was already looking for an OB at the time. Unfortunately, if you want to switch practices, you'll have to request your records (at your cost sometimes!!!) and have them transferred.

I'd get your WTF at your current practice, see your RE at his new practice, and see how both these meetings go.

nola8446

I am sorry you have to deal with all of this.  I agree with the pp's that you should make appts with both and see who you are more comfortable with.  I know it will not be so easy, but I know you will make the best decision for you and your DH.  Best of luck!

sunshine610

Bella2u07:

If I were in your shoes, I would track down the RE that left, ask him the questions and if you really like him and want to stay with him...then follow him to his new practice, to me adding another 30 mins to stay with someone I like it no biggie.  At the same time, schedule a WTF/consult with the other RE and if you like what he has to say better then your current RE then stay where you are. 

This exactly. I am so sorry this adding more stress to an already stressful situation. GL to you with whatever you decide! I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

DeputiesWife

hmmm, sorry for the freak out and not knowing that your RE wasnt coming back.

I think I would stay at my current clinic if my RE left.

babylove0511

omg, how frustrating! you have been waiting so long! i am so sorry that you feel abandoned, i would too =(

good luck with making your decision. i say go with your gut! if you liked the RE follow him and if it was the clinic then stay put. ((HUGS)) 

MrsRumpf

Really, Really LAME.