This weekend we will be seeing much of our family, none of which we have seen since we got pregnant. We live in Salt Lake City and are from Sacramento so we don't get to see family too often, especially since we are still saving for our wedding and now the baby.
I started the pregnancy already overweight because I was never able to lose much weight after my DD. I have lost over 15 pounds up to this point from M/S and lack of appetite, but my belly has actually gotten bigger.
I know many members of the family want to touch my belly because they have told me they cannot wait to be able to. However, at this point there really isn't anything to feel. Just my already soft and slightly squishy belly. When I talked to fiance, he just said that it's ok, i look pregnant not fat and my belly has gotten firm. I don't see it that way at this point.
Sooooo do i let the family touch on my belly or tell them to leave it alone for now? Help!
Re: WWYD belly touching
Ditto to this. I personally can't stand my personal space being taken over. I don't like people touching me and it wasn't until recently that I was even okay with DH touching my belly. I do however do the same and cringe and just let them. I always just hope they will do it quickly and move on. That's totally up to you though, chances are they will touch it upon arrival and seeing you and upon departure, so can you handle that? Good Luck!
I totally agree with the PPs....your belly, your call on who touches. You could always reach out and touch their belly back and see how they respond
On a side note, I live in SLC too!! We just moved here from Boston in July and we're here for only a year for MHs job. Small world!!
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I had family reaching for my belly when I was 6 wks, so absolutely no baby bump, and it was so weird. A few weeks later at a family get together when a hand started reaching again I blocked it and explained to everyone that I was not comfortable with that. Before we even went to see DH's family he said he would run belly interference. I would say if you're not ok with it then tell your family, they should understand and let DH explain to his family. Of course when it comes to strangers or people you don't see often you kinda have to play it by ear.
Whenever I've had a family member rub my belly, I rub theirs right back! Makes them so uncomfortable that they stop rubbing mine.
I don't think I'd have the nerve to do that to a stranger or acquaintance, but with family, it seems to work well!!
For some reason, DH liked to grab for it before I was knocked up, and I kept telling him "when you put something in it, THEN you can touch".
Now I have to stick by that. >.< At least I've actually started getting a "bump", not just fat.
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