TTA.. ick

MegMeg0913

I recently came to the conclusion that we need to not dwell on having a LO asap.  My DH and I talked about it and since we have had our fair share of problems since the surgery and I am still so upset that it will be best to TTA for at least 4 more months.  It was so hard to actually make this decision even before we got the full update from the doctor.  I feel like I am giving up and the fear of another loss is crippling me. 

For those of you that are TTA, how do you deal with putting your dream on the shelf for a while with out losing hope? 

Update: We found out that my HCG levels are not dropping but the good news is that they are not going up!

Fallon621

theresat858:

I understand how difficult that decision must have been to make.  I like how one of the ladies on TTCAL put it: "Think of this time not as time you aren't trying for a baby, but as time that you are getting your body/life in the best shape possible to carry a child" (or something along those lines).

Ditto Theresa.  Man its 4am and dont think I will ever catch up on what ive missed.

ohbabyoh

theresat858:

I understand how difficult that decision must have been to make.  I like how one of the ladies on TTCAL put it: "Think of this time not as time you aren't trying for a baby, but as time that you are getting your body/life in the best shape possible to carry a child" (or something along those lines).

This is exactly where I am trying to get my head right now.  It's really hard and I can tell it is going to take a good while to adjust.  But taking small steps and celebrating little victories health wise has helped me.

MrsAtch

We only TTA for just shy of a month, but until we get our BFP we are trying to spend our time being as healthy as possible, loving each other and spending good time together, and preparing our home and lives for a baby. We are completely remodeling the upstairs of our house, ripping out all of the walls etc. in our nursery, and focusing on projects that will make it easier to have a baby in the future.

HadleyS

ohbabyoh:

theresat858:

I understand how difficult that decision must have been to make.  I like how one of the ladies on TTCAL put it: "Think of this time not as time you aren't trying for a baby, but as time that you are getting your body/life in the best shape possible to carry a child" (or something along those lines).

This is exactly where I am trying to get my head right now.  It's really hard and I can tell it is going to take a good while to adjust.  But taking small steps and celebrating little victories health wise has helped me.

All of this.  I remember this from a past post as well, and it's the nicest way to think of TTA.  I also try to think of the big picture, that my child will maybe even be in the same grade still, have the same friends growing up, if not, then maybe just one year later, which really isn't that bad.  If that's the case, then I just start to think that well, this kid is gonna be really close in age to their sibling (because we are just now starting out on growing our family).  Trying to put things into a larger perspective seems to help me at least a little, and at least part of the time.  If it helps you to think like this, then try it out every now and then.  (((hugs)))

88eve88

Could you please explain what TTA stands for?  I tried to google it and all I got were names of transportation authorities and airports.   Thanks.

MegMeg0913

88eve88:

TTA 

Trying to Avoid

 

MegMeg0913

Thank you so much ladies.  I appreciate all the great advice and good vibes that you all give me!!  I don't know what I'd do with out you guys lol 

Niftyroses

I thought I'd want to TTC as soon as my doctor allowed (in 3 months).  But while I was pregnant, I felt so unprepared.  So this summer, my DH and I are going to finish some things on our new house, travel to Europe, and generally enjoy life for a little while.