telling people

georgiastilley

Found out I had a blighted ovum on Friday when we went for the first ultrasound. My husband and I are sad and we have told our closest family members and friends...but how do we tell everyone else? I just dont know what to say...should I say anything at all? Or should I go ahead and get it out there???

lauren.cus

I'm so sorry about your loss. I think you need to do whatever you feel comfortable doing. If you don't want to tell people right away, don't. If you want them to know but don't want to tell them, ask a close friend to spread the news. If you want to tell everyone right away, don't feel nervous telling them.

 I really wanted people to know, but had a really difficult time finding the courage to tell everyone so I started a blog (it's in my signature if you want to see what I put). I just laid out our entire story beginning to end. I then posted it on Facebook. It's been so amazing the support and genuine condolences we've received from it.

Again, just do what you feel comfortable doing.

Niftyroses

I told my mom and dad and made them tell everyone else.  I only told 2 friends that I was KO, so I told them too.   

My DH told his parents and made them tell everyone else.

Whatever is the easiest way for you to tell people, do it.  They'll understand if you dont want to call them.

Fallon621

Awww sweetie I am so sorry about your loss.    I was very nieve and told just about every one (that will never happen again)  so i felt the need to UN-tell everyone because i didnt want them asking how things are going and what not.  Even today I guess someone didnt hear the news and asked me If we found out what we were having.  I simply told her that we lot the baby.  I am supposed to be 16w3d PG and finding out soon   its so sad but I agree with the PP's and just do what you feel is right for you or have someone else do it for you. 

sisterrael

I passed the buck on the untelling.  WE hadn't announced our pregnancy.  We had told my parents,and my parents leaked the secret to nearly everyone.  My mom did most of the untelling.  Fair Warning though, I was still getting questions about the baby and my pregnancy for months from people who had heard about the pregnancy through the grapevine, but had not heard about our loss.

 

I'm sorry for your loss.  Do what works best for you, WHEN it's best for you.

AJG2009

As the previous posters said, you should do what is comfortable for you. 

For me, it helped to know that the people closest to me knew and that I had their support.  Our parents, siblings, and a couple of close friends knew that we might not be getting good news at the u/s this time, so I sent them all a text afterward.  I knew I couldn't talk to them in person b/c of the tears. 

We had told a few more friends the second time, so I had my best friend spread the news of the loss.