Naming

Muffinhb · January 2011

i know i am new at this and totally hysterical right now. but since we wont know the sex of the babies and i feel everything/person needs a name no matter how long they are with us. I named the twins Sam and Alex. Gender neutral names that can go for both sexs and i hope this helps me to heal in the long run and not make it harder. Has anyone else done this?

jk817 · January 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. I named my baby Patrick even though we didn't know the gender of our child. (I miscarried on Christmas Day at almost 7 weeks) My husband and I both thought he was a boy, so we went with a name we liked for a boy. I have found it helpful in my grieving process as well as when I talk about losing our baby. Naming him has helped me refer to the baby as a "him" rather than an "it" or something else non-specific.

I like your choices for names. Again, I'm so sorry you have to walk this path. This board has provided a lot of good information for me and a lot of encouragement. I hope you find it helpful as you grieve.

Muffinhb · January 2011

Thank you ladies. I dont feel so crazy anymore. After i did that my H told me i was crazy

LDW80 · January 2011

I just posted about this yesterday. I don't think it is crazy at all. Just because the babies didn't grow to term and come out of you alive doesn't mean they don't deserve a name. Those babies were real no matter how old they were. We named our LO Kalin. We took part of me maiden last name and part of my married name, meshed them together and got Kalin. Now I feel it more was a part of our families. It also helped me emotionally when I gave it a name.