new high risk ob pushing for vbac

melissa-n-paul

my previous practice, along with many others locally, wouldnt even consider a vbac. i wasnt too crushed about it although wished i would had at least been able to have a "choice". long story short i came to terms with having a repeat c/s in march- i had a great recovery and expierence with my daughters birth and really have no reason to go about it any other way. well, long story short i am now high risk (due to complications with babys kidneys) being high risk doesnt affect delivery in any event in my situation but having low fluid means i could go into pre term labor. im 28 wks, hoping we make it to 32 wks and obviously any longer would be awesome. anyway- my new practice/ob has midwives who perform vbacs. the ob i actually met with today as well as the midwife last week were very informative and encouraged me to consider it. i was really surprised even the ob was pushing for me to consider it. i feel like with all the complications and the baby that i have enough to worry about and not sure how i feel about wanting to do a vbac although i would love to be able to do it- especially recovery wise if my little guy ends up in the nicu or for the sake of coming home to take care of DD.

really confused and just looking for insight- what made you want/not want or even consider a vbac?

LittleEgypt

Good for the OB! They are supposed to encourage VBAC for most women, because it's healthier for both mom and baby. Most don't, though. My reasons will not be yours: I felt very disappointed about my c-section, and my feelings about birth are my primary motivation. However, there is plenty of evidence that VBAC is the safer choice, so you might want to research the risks of both VBAC and repeat c-section.

Sazhrah

I wish you all the best and making it passt 32 weeks. I want a vbac because it is the natural thing to do. I do not like idea of unnecessary surgery no matter what the case and especially to bring my child into this world. If my doctor and midwife were pushing it I would love them all the more for it.

princess101

I would love to be able to have a natural childbirth including a VBAC. I want to be able to lift my toddler and play with him and not be in constant pain from a major surgery. I also want to SEE my child for more than a minute before he's whisked away and i'm sent to recovery for an hour. I want pictures of us as a family right after baby is born. I missed all of that last time. Sure, a scheduled date to have a baby via repeat c/s sounds great, but I want more than that if it's possible. If it's not we'll make do and be happy with our new baby since that's the whole point of the whole thing!

 

lorryfach

melissa-n-paul:

what made you want/not want or even consider a vbac?

I'm C&Ping from another thread because I just got up and I'm tired. lol 

I am in Denmark, and VBAC is the norm here. It took me a lot of time and reading to be comfortable with this because for me, the labor was the traumatic part. I learned that Bean's position was not just the reason I needed a c/s, but also the reason that labor was so slow and excruciating. Thus it would almost certainly be better the second time. I learned that going through labor, even if it ended in c/s, had health benefits to both me and my baby. I learned that a vaginal birth was generally healthier for the baby and usually a much easier recovery for me. This was a key point for me, because I'd have a toddler waiting for me at home! My midwife assured me that I could, at any time, give up on the VBAC and get an RCS instead. If my labor was just as bad as before, I could stop. So I decided to go for it.

Labor went much better, though it was still hard, I won't lie! But the recovery was ridiculous. I left the hospital on my own two feet just four hours after delivery. I was feel really, really great in just days.  I started training for a 5K four weeks post partum. So for me, I made the right decision and I got exactly what I wanted from the VBAC. 

KatieP585

Unless there is some extenuating circumstance with your health or baby's health that they think you shouldn't, I would DEFINITELY VBAC, especially if your baby might be in the NICU. NICU is stressful enough without having to go through a surgical recovery too! Even more so if you have kids at home. My first child was a C-section for breech and the second was a VBAC. Baby #1 was only 19 months old and it was so much easier chasing after a toddler without having had major abdominal surgery.

cchill01

I really want a VBAC the second time for a whole list of reasons:

 - A c-section is MAJOR abdominal surgery with all the risks of any surgery - including infection or death.

-  The hospital time is longer, so that's more time away from DD#1.

-  The recovery is longer, making it harder to care for 2 children.

-  My first recovery was over 6 months.  I still have incision pain to this day. 

-  Lastly, I want my vaginal birth 'moment'.  I want that experience of delivering a baby and having her on my chest to nurse right away.

I'm not sure why you had a C-section the first time, but if it was for failure to progress, you may have more luck if you end up going early with a smaller baby.  Not that I'm hoping for you to go early, but it's something to consider.

Hoping that you make it to 32!!