F/U appointment after D&C (long and vent-ish)

WifeyWynn0626 · January 2011

I'm so incredibly irritated and pissed off right now. To make a long background story short, I've been having issues with my OB ever since my first u/s back in October with her. She's very aburpt, makes you feel silly for asking questions and just overall doesn't have the best bedside manner. I kept my appointment last month with her and planned on switiching Dr.'s when I hit my second tri, which never happened. So I went for my follow up today and knew it wasn't going to go well. The nurse took me back, got my vitals, then said that my pathology report was in so that my Dr. would go over it. Well, she came back and first started out by telling me I she didn't know when I was going to get my next AF, and it could take up to 10 weeks. Almost with a "So don't call asking about it.." attitude. Then asked if I wanted to go back on B/C, which I told her I didn't, so she said we were cleared to TTC after my first AF shows up. She then asks if I have any questions and started to stand up!!! Seriously?

I stopped her and asked her about my Rh- diagnosis (which I found out about after my D&C, not from her). She told me that it wasn't something I needed to worry about and that 25% of all women have it. I then stopped her again and explained that I KNEW about RH-, since I read up about it after I found out, but more so wanted to know why I didn't find out from her. She proceeded to tell me that it didn't have a factor in what happened and that I would have been informed about it later on in my pregnancy. Oh, that pissed me off. I didn't say anything but, I SHOULD have been told about it right when they found out about it since it would have at some point been necessary for me know.

Then she asked if I had anymore questions and I told her no, but I wanted to hear about my pathology report. Well, I was informed that it came back as "contents of conception", meaning that nothing was wrong so I didn't need to know the details about it since it was ectopic or anything like that. Again, SERIOUSLY? I f*****g lost my child almost 3 weeks ago and all you can do it sit there, talk to me in harsh tones and make me feel like I'm wasting your time because I wanted to know the results of my CHILD'S DEATH! I got up, walked out, paid my co-pay and left in tears. I've never been treated so coldly in my life. You'd think she'd been a little bit sympathetic to my situation and treat me a little nicer. I didn't even schedule my pap for March like she wanted me to because I plan on finding a new Dr before then. Thankfully I have today off because I've been crying all day about it. I've never wanted AF to come so badly, because then I can find a new Dr. and start over. Crying

tdmd09 · January 2011

Wow. That sucks. I'd definitely find a new doctor. So sorry you had to deal with that.

Jen&Louie · January 2011

I am so terribly sorry. That is beyond bad bedside manner - it was unprofessional to brush off your concerns and questions. It's hard to understand why some people get into medicine when they seem not to care about their pateints as people. You think she could have mustered up some compassion. Big (((hugs))) to you.

ChristinaCT · January 2011

Oh good god! that is terrible! What a horrible doctor. It is absolutely time to find a new OB. You shouldn't have to deal with that ever, but especially now. Doctors are supposed to answer any question you may have with out hesitation. No reason not to start looking now. You don't need AF to call & ask questions. I am so sorry you had to deal with that today. I hope you find a new OB soon & that that one treats you with the respect you deserve.

HadleyS · January 2011

I am so sorry! (((Hugs!))) Your doctor certainly did not treat you with respect and I definitely hope that you find a doctor soon that will treat you with compassion. The nerve some doctors have! I ended up going in emergently and saw a resident(!) and she was such a newb, thank goodness my husband is a doctor too (not an OB but still!). She was so nervous to deliver the bad news that I just did it for her because I knew exactly what was going on with my own body. I could tell that she was pretty thankful and I think I might have even heard her give a sigh of relief! Best of luck to you on your doctor hunt and please let us know when you think you have found a keeper.

lavril · January 2011

I'm so sorry you had a horrible experience with your doc. Defn get a new one!!! There are amazing and caring OB's out there and I hope you find one soon!