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Today I call the doc

ChristinaCTChristinaCT
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I took the day off because I am still sad.  I didn't want to call the doctor from work to set up my u/s because I think I will cry when I do it.  she said that we are going to discuss when we could start trying again.  Part of me wants to start trying right way or as soon as we can anyway.  In your experience how log do you have to wait?  I would assume you would need to get your period at least once before?  I feel like I am being heartless to the child we just lost.  Part of me doesn't ever want to move on, but I know we have to at somepoint right?
BFP #1 2/8/2008 - Evan born 10/3/2008 via c/s @ 38wks
BFP #2 12/31/2010 (EDD 9/1/11) -- Natrual m/c 1/9/10
BFP #3 12/20/2011 - EDD 8/25/12
u/s 1/6/12 - HB & beautiful bean
A/S 4/2 - It's a Girl!!!
RCS on 8/20/12
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Re: Today I call the doc

  • ohbabyohohbabyoh

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  Personally, I've experienced a lot of back and forth within the last three weeks since our loss, as to whether or not I want to try again anytime soon.  It is completely normal to have feelings of guilt.

    The reality is that we want as many children as possible and neither H or I are getting any younger.  My midwife said that if we were emotionally ready, we could try again right away.  My new doc suggests waiting a couple of cycles... we'll take her advice because H is more comfortable with it, and heaven knows I could use some extra time for emotional healing.

    That being said, in terms of what to expect... I was told by the doc and many online sources that you can't get your period until you've had at least 20 straight days with no bleeding or spotting.  I m/c'd on 12/16 and started my period on 01/05, about 19 days after mc and 14 or so days with no bleeding.

    I wish you peace in the days to come and I hope your doc appointment goes well.  ((hugs))


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  • ChristinaCTChristinaCT

    Thank you.  I appreciate your help.  I just called & I am going in there for 10:45 today.  I am glad I took the day off.  I am having a crappy movie marathon & will eat crapy food when I get out of there. 

    I'll update when I get home.   

    BFP #1 2/8/2008 - Evan born 10/3/2008 via c/s @ 38wks
    BFP #2 12/31/2010 (EDD 9/1/11) -- Natrual m/c 1/9/10
    BFP #3 12/20/2011 - EDD 8/25/12
    u/s 1/6/12 - HB & beautiful bean
    A/S 4/2 - It's a Girl!!!
    RCS on 8/20/12
    BabyFruit Ticker Lilypie Fourth Birthday tickers
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  • JNicMTekJNicMTek

    I hope some answers will help you with this. I also called the doc today (m/c on Friday night, but never went for medical attention, just let it go naturally until today). They set up my u/s for this afternoon.

    I also want to start trying again right away. I know it's different for everyone and I hope you are able to come to a decision regarding TTC/TTA that works for you and your family. For us, I "knew" this pg was different and I had a feeling it may end sadly. Over the weekend I came to terms with it, and an eerie family birthday thing actually helped ease my pain. I know we're ready to start again as soon as medically acceptable for me. For me, I don't feel like I'm being heartless. I believe the baby we lost was meant to be in our life for that short period of time (not sure of the reason for that, but I'm religious so it works for me).

    I just wanted to say, I am in basically the same position as you are right now, for whatever help that may or may not be.

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