Sunday Steps Check-in

lauren.cus

lavril: hope you don't mind me following up with one this week:) I thought this was a great idea last week, and wasn't sure if you remembered.

For those of you that didn't see lavril's post last week, she suggested us doing a Sunday Steps Check-in where we list the big steps we've made towards healing this past week.

 My step for the week: I pulled out my u/s pictures that I hid away last week and I actually framed one to keep on our bedside table:) I'm excited to get to wake up to my baby's face each morning.

What steps have ya'll taken this week?

madiegirl83

I am still so new to this... so I don't know what steps I have really taken except at least now we have told the people who knew about the pregnancy... luckily we hadn't told many people... I don't think I could tell that story anymore times... I start bawling every time I have to actually say the words out loud..

ohbabyoh

This is a good idea.

I went to the doctor per H's request (brought him with me) this week... this I consider a step towards his healing because he needed questions answered and I was having difficulty making him understand what is happening with my body.  He's been kind of panicky ever since we lost the baby and really stressed about my health.  It was a new doctor and she's awesome.

This is the first week that I've actually started to feel a little bit like myself again... I did a lot of things that I love that are 'me' things, like running the dog almost daily, baking lots of bread, playing with our budget haha.  It felt good.  Sitting on the couch in my PJs feels good too, I've done lots of that as well.

I hope you ladies have had a good week... if you haven't, I hope this one is better

nekillo

I went back on the pill and officially took myself out of the game.  DH and I don't really like any other method of b/c but I am actually much more at peace than I have been since the m/c.  I am back in control of my life, and if/when we are ready to ttc again, I will go off the pill and we can try again.  I am in control, finally.

MegMeg0913

This is an awesome idea!!

My step for this week is not trying to bottle up all of the emotions that I have been feeling. I was trying to be superwoman and that wasn't working out so well lol 

   PS: Thank you so much ladies for all the help and support that you have been giving me.  I appreciate all of you so much.  

I my Bump-ettes!

Fallon621

Great idea Lavril. 

I have 2. I called the director of a local support group that I talked to a few weeks ago and told her that I would be comming to this months meeting.  I was supposed to go to my first metting a few days before Christmas but chickened out.  I marked it on my calender and and comitting to going.

Also I am taking the courses on FF to learn to chart and am amazed at all that really goes into it and am excited that i'm learning more about my body.

ChristinaCT

Well yesterday was a pretty bad day.  That was the day i m/c'd.  I am still cramping so I stayed home from work.  It's not bad I just don't want to be there today.  

The steps I have taken has been to unsubscribe from my weekly e-mails I have been getting from various sites.  I also Deleted my ticker from my siggy.   

LaurenB15

YAY Lauren! 

 My steps... well, joining the FFF and starting to work out again.  I also have my follow up appt with my Dr. this afternoon where I will be asking about TTC again.  Also, I went back to work today!

Manderlin923

LaurenB15:

YAY Lauren! 

 My steps... well, joining the FFF and starting to work out again.  I also have my follow up appt with my Dr. this afternoon where I will be asking about TTC again.  Also, I went back to work today!

(DS pics below)

My biggest step this week was related to writing. I am in the process (a long one) of finishing a novel and my main character has a miscarriage. It's something I had decided on before this loss happened but I hadn't written anything on it yet. Well, Friday I did. I was able to get through 2,000 words or so (quite a large chunk- some of which will be cut down probably) of it, using my own experience as material. I got through the entire thing without crying and only cried when I reread the entire thing at the end. But, I didn't break down and I got through it feeling one step closer to healing, and pretty proud of my work, too

Great job this week everyone. It really does get easier even though it will always hurt. It's great to acknowledge those steps that are helping us heal.

(oh, and I haven't been working out much but managed to lose over 2 pounds this week because I've been eating so healthy and I finally broke through my weight loss barrier!)

 

WifeyWynn0626

My biggest one this week was facing my DH's family. I only cried a few times but, I feel better now that I've faced this since there was a lot riding on this pregnancy, My DH is the only boy out of 6 so, the push to carry on the family name is a factor, which I now realized was a huge barrier for my healing since I felt like I failed his side of the family as well. It's great to see everyone making progress in their healing process!

fireflies0306

Everyone sounds like they are making wonderful steps, and I am so proud of you all!  Just the fact that we can get up everyday and leave our bed, and possibly get dressed is a feat unto itself.

Anyway-thank you for bringing this back yesterday (sorry I was in ER with DD, with a busted chin while she was with my ex--5 stitches!)

After the ER, DH and I decided we had to go to target to get dog food and other items in case we do get this next snowstorm.  And as we were walking out, we passed by the baby section.  Since we had a huge blow up with his cousin last Thursday/Friday about her wanting a jogger stroller back NOW b/c she is suddenly pregnant again (and we traded a few years ago--my double for her single)...and decided it was best to just give her the D**m stroller to shut her up (more issues at play--posted at TTCAL).  

I decided I wanted to go see what a jogger actually costs...and while we looked, we found a baby pattern for a pack and play, a high chair and a stroller system that we absolutely love--then we felt guilty b/c when we were looking for our little Robert to register, we couldn't find anything we liked, so we were going used.  But we had to tear ourselves away from the new stuff b/c he and i were ready to rip out the credit cards and buy all three pieces, just b/c we don't want the pattern to disappear!  But we called our moms to make sure we weren't crazy, and they told us absolutely not.  So we agreed that from now on, every pay check we are going to buy 1 of the big items, so that hopefully when we get our take home baby, we can have something that his/her dad and i bought him/her when we were anticipating the best.  

It is very hard for me to think positively...but I am trying to think for the future and the possibility of another baby.  But that was my big step--and I didn't break down once!!!

 {{{hugs}}}} 

LaurenB15

fireflies0306- I love what you and your DH have decided to do!  I'm not sure I'm strong enough for that yet but I love it!

lavril

LAUREN - THANK YOU FOR REMEMBERING THIS!!!!!!!!!!!  I can't believe it's been a week since I posted the first one.  Thanks so much for posting this for me!  I don't know what has been wrong with me today and yesterday, I've been in this weird haze. 

Anyways - lots of big steps I think.  I was able to go back to work, and somehow manage to not break down in tears in front of my coworkers when they asked how great my time off for Christmas was.  I even was able to talk to a lady about her new grandchild, although I changed the subject as soon as I could.   Most importantly, I have been physically feeling better and was able to start playing my new favorite addiction Just Dance 2, haha 

I'm so proud of everyone and all the great steps you've made this week!!