FFFC re: driving DD w/o a carseat

BellaAmor215

sexyntexy:

MCMoo23:

IrishBrideND:

If your coworker could take off to drive you, why couldn't she have instead watched lo....or gone and bought the carseat for you?I would have killed h.

Um..this. You know that most accidents occur within a mile of the home or workplace, right? 

Jeesh, Texy..I think sometimes you just need to not tell people what you do on TB. You're going to get flamed up the @ss for this.

 

I definitely agree it wasnt the best thing but this is how I see it.

1.  My DD hates this woman.  She has a TON of seperation anxiety right now.  If I left her there to SCREAM bloody murder at my corporate office building that would not have been good.

2.  This woman doesnt know what kind of carseat to buy.  Hell it took me 30 minutes to freaking pick one out.

3.  I felt like this was my only decision.  While I AGREE something terrible could have happened it didnt.  It defintely wasnt the brightest moment I have had as a Mom, but I really felt like I didnt have many choices.

I would much rather her scream while I went to buy a car seat. And honestly, I would have told DH to turn around, or stayed and waited for him (or a coworker that DD likes/knows how to pick out a car seat gets off work) DH would have been so pissed at me if I ever did that. Your DH wouldn't turn around for DD's safety???? Anyway, you were very lucky.

grapeape73

lpstl:

I'm not going to flame you, because it's real easy to pick apart what you should have done after the fact, and even though it might result in an entertaining post, it's pointless. I will flame your H though, if mine had done that I would have given him two options: turn around or I report all your credit cards and debit card stolen..., and maybe even your car, just for kicks.

LP: I think you and I were separated at birth. 

ST:You know it was stupid.  Looking back, you can probably think of 1000 better  ways to handle that situation. 

I am really upset that your Dh wouldn't turn around. If my Dh did that, not  only would he have turned around right away, he would have taken me to dinner for causing me stress.  Your dh needs to put his child's safety first. 

Stratton28

MexiCali:

Did you not learn your lesson from your FFFC with texting? Please don't do this again. You already know it's very dangerous and what your other options could have been.

i was thinking this too.

 

Big J

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only1erin

i am shocked that someone's husband and father wouldn't turn back b/c they're so concerned w/getting to their friend's hangout time. that's really lame. somehow i really overlooked your whole "driving w/no carseat" issue and can't seem to understand how a man says "oh well, too bad for you. go figure it out. bye".

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only1erin:

i am shocked that someone's husband and father wouldn't turn back b/c they're so concerned w/getting to their friend's hangout time. that's really lame. somehow i really overlooked your whole "driving w/no carseat" issue and can't seem to understand how a man says "oh well, too bad for you. go figure it out. bye".

Her DH really comes off as an asshat.

Ivana_Stolichnaya

1)  I don't care if it's Friday and no...you aren't safe from being flamed.  That was fvcking ridiculous!  If you were in any sort of accident...and they do happen out of the blue, your child would have been launched through the window like a football.  Don't ever do that again.  Next time you have someone watch your child.

2)  Your husband is a self-centered asshat to not turn around.  I would have been livid with him.

robinsokj

So, are you going to do anything about this childish behavior of your H's or not?

RadicalDreamer143

robinsokj:

So, are you going to do anything about this childish behavior of your H's or not?

This.

And, for the times where my UO is that I don't understand how women could consciously decide to procreate with such childish a$$hats - this is a prime example.  People don't suddenly become a$$hats... they've been this way for a long time, so she is also at fault for being dumb enough to have a child with an a$$hat - as evidenced by her choice in how to rectify the situation.

IrishBrideND

JamieS2006:

robinsokj:

So, are you going to do anything about this childish behavior of your H's or not?

This.

And, for the times where my UO is that I don't understand how women could consciously decide to procreate with such childish a$$hats - this is a prime example.  People don't suddenly become a$$hats... they've been this way for a long time, so she is also at fault for being dumb enough to have a child with an a$$hat - as evidenced by her choice in how to rectify the situation.

I certainly would not be actively ttcing number two if my h didn't care about the safety of number one.

sexyntexy

Okay while I agree what my DH did was stupd I think you guys are getting carried away.  He is a SAHD and takes perfect care of DD.  This was his one chance at a getaway in months.  He was in a hurry to get there because the college football team he adores was playing at 7.  If he turned around he would have missed it.  I know, I know putting football above your child's safety is stupid but he didnt think anything was really going to happen to her. 

I get the point that I should have had my friend go get the seat in hindsight. 

robinsokj

sexyntexy:

Okay while I agree what my DH did was stupd I think you guys are getting carried away.  He is a SAHD and takes perfect care of DD.  This was his one chance at a getaway in months.  He was in a hurry to get there because the college football team he adores was playing at 7.  If he turned around he would have missed it.  I know, I know putting football above your child's safety is stupid but he didnt think anything was really going to happen to her. 

I get the point that I should have had my friend go get the seat in hindsight. 

Oh come on.  I'm sure you realize this is a pathetic excuse.  

yankeebaby2

robinsokj:

sexyntexy:

Okay while I agree what my DH did was stupd I think you guys are getting carried away.  He is a SAHD and takes perfect care of DD.  This was his one chance at a getaway in months.  He was in a hurry to get there because the college football team he adores was playing at 7.  If he turned around he would have missed it.  I know, I know putting football above your child's safety is stupid but he didnt think anything was really going to happen to her. 

I get the point that I should have had my friend go get the seat in hindsight. 

Oh come on.  I'm sure you realize this is a pathetic excuse.  

absolutely.  But Ku with number two maybe she is trying to save face.

 

sexyntexy

robinsokj:

sexyntexy:

Okay while I agree what my DH did was stupd I think you guys are getting carried away.  He is a SAHD and takes perfect care of DD.  This was his one chance at a getaway in months.  He was in a hurry to get there because the college football team he adores was playing at 7.  If he turned around he would have missed it.  I know, I know putting football above your child's safety is stupid but he didnt think anything was really going to happen to her. 

I get the point that I should have had my friend go get the seat in hindsight. 

Oh come on.  I'm sure you realize this is a pathetic excuse.  

I'm done explaining myself.  *** happens. 

Was it a bad situation?  Yes. 

Would I have done things differently looking back?  Yes.

sexyntexy

yankeebaby2:

robinsokj:

sexyntexy:

Okay while I agree what my DH did was stupd I think you guys are getting carried away.  He is a SAHD and takes perfect care of DD.  This was his one chance at a getaway in months.  He was in a hurry to get there because the college football team he adores was playing at 7.  If he turned around he would have missed it.  I know, I know putting football above your child's safety is stupid but he didnt think anything was really going to happen to her. 

I get the point that I should have had my friend go get the seat in hindsight. 

Oh come on.  I'm sure you realize this is a pathetic excuse.  

absolutely.  But Ku with number two maybe she is trying to save face.

 

I'm not trying to "save face".  I have admitted several times that it was a bad situation and that I should have sent the friend to get the carseat.

IrishBrideND

btw, I am an idiot. I didn't realize you were already ku with number 2. I thought you were still ttc. I wouldn t have made that comment if I realized you were already pregnant. I do apologize for that.