naming lost babies

kthappy76

I know there is no right answer to this question, but just wondering what ppl here have done.  We lost our first baby last week (@8wks)and I guess I never really thought about naming the baby since it was so early, but I see that many ppl do.  Now I'm starting to feel like when/if we find out the gender (from the testing) that I'd like to give him/her a name. 

WDYD?

lauren.cus

I just FELT like my baby was a boy. We were planning on naming him Benjamin Edward, so in my mind it has stuck:) I feel life it's allowed me to bond with my baby even more.

WifeyWynn0626

We didn't name ours as we didn't know the sex of the baby. A slightly insensitive SIL said we should just name it a uni-sex name just so it could have a name, but without knowing for sure DH and I agreed to just call it "Baby Wynn" because for me, just assuming a name would make it less special somehow. (And this is not a jab for those who did, it's just the way DH and I felt). Occasionally I call it Reese, as in Reese Cup, since that was our nickname for the baby. (We found out on Halloween I was expecting so we nicknamed it after our favorite Halloween candy.)

WifeyWynn0626

Well, I guess I didn't answer the question.. For me if I would have know the sex of the baby, we already have names picked out so, I would have named it for whichever sex it would have been. But since I didn't know the sex, I didn't name my baby.

lauren.cus

WifeyWynn0626:

We didn't name ours as we didn't know the sex of the baby. A slightly insensitive SIL said we should just name it a uni-sex name just so it could have a name, but without knowing for sure DH and I agreed to just call it "Baby Wynn" because for me, just assuming a name would make it less special somehow. (And this is not a jab for those who did, it's just the way DH and I felt). Occasionally I call it Reese, as in Reese Cup, since that was our nickname for the baby. (We found out on Halloween I was expecting so we nicknamed it after our favorite Halloween candy.)

I actually love the name Reese

MegMeg0913

I didn't name either of my little angels.  For a while I did want to, and I can see why it could help, but when it came down to it my DH and me we felt it was to hard with them already gone.

After we decided not too with our first loss, I went out and got a tattoo of a dove in his honor. 

 I hope this helps!  ~Good luck honey~ 

ashleyluvskyle

We searched Unisex name and went with Quinn the website stated means 5th (duh) and it would have been my 5th child.  It just fit.  I like having a name instead of referring to it as the baby we talk about Quinn.  It really helped us.

 Also to me it helped represent that this was a real child. We had already started including it in our daily life.  My hubby talked to baby several times a day as did my children.  I wanted to at first but then thought well that is stupid...then I read about it on a miscarriage website...and I said something to hubby about it and he said he'd been thinking about asking me how i felt about naming the baby.  Since we both obviously had been thinking about it we decided to do it.  This was my husbands first child, so I knew that he would definetly need some closure.

Niftyroses

Several people have told me to.  I hadn't even thought about it,  We picked out our childrens names years ago, named after our grandparents.  I dont want to honor a lost gransparent by naming a lost fetus, it was just too sad.  Also I didn't know the sex. 

I don't think we will pick out other names either, only because I think it will be easier for me to not dwell on this and move on.  I work in veterinary medicine and when we get really sick stray puppies and kittens, I refuse to name them until I'm pretty sure they are going to make it.  Otherwise that name is forever associated with a sad time. 

I hope you all realize that I am not heartless.  I am heartbroken as well.  I think it's beautiful to name your lost baby, but it's just not for me.  I think it will make it harder for me to say goodbye.

Lorange-8

My first loss was very clear the baby was a girl (name in my siggy) second loss I really never got any feeling. Found out I was pregnant on Sunday and lost the baby on Tuesday.