Is it just me, or was this totally insensitive?

tdmd09

I haven't posted here in a bit but I still lurk often following my m/c in November. Something happened last night that has bugged the heck out of me, but I can't figure out if I'm overreacting. I don't plan on responding in any way, of course, but I can still vent.

On my wedding month board, where I hang out most often, someone yesterday posted that their friend had a m/c and they were looking for advice on what to say, do, what to give as a gift, etc. I was the only person to respond (although I know a few other ladies on there have had a loss before) and gave her good advice based on what did/didn't provide me comfort after my m/c.

Sidenote: when I got pregnant, there was one girl due the exact same day as me, and another due 2 days before us.

A few hours after the m/c post yesterday, the girl due the same day as me posted a message directed at the girl due two days ahead of her/us, asking if she had scheduled her anatomy scan, wasn't she so excited, etc?

While logically she can post whatever, whenever, I found it sadly ironic that she was somehow inspired to post about anatomy scans right after I had gotten to share insight about how to help someone grieve a pregnancy loss. Really, I thought it was kind of sh!tty. Am I out of line?

lauren.cus

Completely insensitive, but I would guess it was not done in malice just oblivion. I'm so sorry you had to read that...I hate that your wedding board isn't the safe haven this board seems to be. Hopefully she will never have to understand how hurtful that post was.

IreneTz

Of course it is totally insensitive!!!

I'm sorry to hear about your loss

I lost my full term baby on November 17th 2010.

I also have an act of insensitivity to tell you about!

On new years eve my husband's sister in law who is also pregnant was sitting right across from me with her husband at the dinner table. They chose that time right then and there to start rubbing her belly and giggling at the baby kicking. Mind you this is her 2nd pregnancy so I'm sure she already knows the feeling. And I'm also sure that she has felt this baby already kick since she is in month 6!!!!

It made me feel like sh*t and ruined my new years eve.