What would you say (re: husband's cologne)

lms_bride

My husband bought a new cologne a couple months ago.  I was there when he picked it out and approved.  But now that he has it, I hate it.  He wears several squirts of it everyday (like 5-6) and when he walks out of our bedroom in the morning it almost makes me want to gag.  It has a peppery/spicy undertone which I find a bit nauseating. 

It was not a cheap bottle of cologne, and mostly I don't want to hurt his feelings.  So do I say something?  I always check with him on new perfumes for me because of course we want to smell good for one another.  But I feel like there is always something I am asking him to do, and I don't want to make him feel bad.  But I really don't like the smell.  And also, does he really want to be the guy at the office who not only wears too much cologne, but its a bad scent?  I've mentioned maybe cutting down on the number of squirts before (with other colognes too) and he said it wears off by the end of the day, I think not realizing that just because he can't smell it doesn't mean others don't. 

Thoughts?  Advice?  I don't want to be a jerk.

MrsBalletStar05

As far as the actual scent, I think I would go buy him a new bottle of something else!  My husband buys nothing for himself, ever - so I've done this several times. 

Not quite the same, but I have had to tell my husband he smelled bad before.  What he was doing was only taking a shower on the days he worked (and when he left the house on his days off, which was next to never).  He argued that he took showers on the days he worked and I reminded him that I DON'T SEE YOU on the days you work.  I see you at home.  And you stink.  And I don't want to have anything to do with you.  That fixed the problem real quick!! 

Daisy77

DH and I had the same issue when his cologne was no longer sold in our area.  I went with him, we picked one out and I later decided I really didn't care for it.  Although it wasn't cheap, I had to be honest with him.  I just said, "You know babe, I really miss your other scent, this one just isn't right.  It's a little too strong".  Funny enough, he agreed with me!  I found his original scent online and ordered it up. 

As for the "dosage", DH wears 2 squirts on his chest, that's it.  It's just right where I can slightly smell it when I'm near him and I can really smell it (in a good way) when I'm close to him.

hellopoppyseed

Daisy77:

DH and I had the same issue when his cologne was no longer sold in our area.  I went with him, we picked one out and I later decided I really didn't care for it.  Although it wasn't cheap, I had to be honest with him.  I just said, "You know babe, I really miss your other scent, this one just isn't right.  It's a little too strong".  Funny enough, he agreed with me!  I found his original scent online and ordered it up. 

As for the "dosage", DH wears 2 squirts on his chest, that's it.  It's just right where I can slightly smell it when I'm near him and I can really smell it (in a good way) when I'm close to him.

I think something like this is good. Something like, "that one is just not quite right." my dh doesn't wear cologne but when he wears some other kind of deodorant, I always say something about being used to the old one and how much I liked that smell and this one isn't right. I don't know what to do about the wearing too much. I know they say you should go with less because you can't smell it on yourself as well. I think you've got to do something. I know what a bummer it can be when your man smells like someone else's man. Hah

littlemermaid

That's happend to my husband before too.  The cologne smells good at the store but then when he wears it, it just doesn't mix well with his own chemistry.   I would just be honest with him.  You don't want him walking around the office stinking and maybe go buy him another cologne and hide the other bottle.

Stacyc625

lol @ little mermaid at hide the bottle. I am guilty of that.

I would also just tell him that you miss his other cologne

Kitten80

I agree with pp ideas.  As for the too much, good for you for noticing and thinking of it being a problem at work.  Because of the over-the-top wearers, I have suffered many an allergy or asthma attack and migraines.  I have seen it mentioned in magazine articles about how you can't smell it after a few minutes, but others can (and if you can still smell it, you have waaaay to much on).  Maybe you could find one online by googling it and show him?  More places are banning scented things being worn to work because of those who over do it.