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Mommaswede

This is my first time posting and unfortunately, its a sucky post.  I had my D & C this morning.  Everything went smoothly, and I'm surprised how normal my body feels.  I feel so torn up in side, but my body has already moved on, which seems somewhat of a betrayal to me.  I'm not ready to move on. 

 I'm an emotional wreck, anytime someones says they are sorry for my loss I start bawling.  I can't control my emotions very well in the first place, let alone now.  My family is trying to call me and talk to me, but all I want to be is left alone.  Even my husband is no comfort. 

Reading everyone's stories has helped, so I thank everyone for sharing.  I hope soon I will be able to move on...

 

 

Jen&Louie

I'm so sorry.  There is no right or wrong way to grieve and the point when you start to feel a bit better is different for everyone. 

I understand the feeling of wanting to be left alone.  As much as I know that people want to help and check in, constant phone calls asking "Are you okay?" aren't helping me move on either.

I hope you can find some peace in your own time.

lauren.cus

I am so sorry! I had my D&C this morning too, so I am right there with you. Just because your body is "healing" does NOT mean it is time for you to be moving on and healing emotionally. This is going to take a long time and will be a long process. Just take the time that you need and try to relax as much as possible. If you're not ready to talk to your family then don't. They will certainly understand. We lost our baby last week and there are so many people that have called that I have still yet to call back. They understand. I hope you can have some peace today. If you ever need to vent or talk, we are all here for you.

Lauren

lavril

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I had my D&C last Wednesday and I felt the exact same way you do.  Nothing could change what was happening, and nothing could make me feel better.  I took the week off work and just sat around crying non-stop.  I'm really glad I took that time to grieve and I feel stronger this week.  Over time you will begin to heal.  If you ever need to talk, we're all here for you!