Trying to figure it all out :(

brobin01

Has anyone had a moment yet where you sit back and think about EVERYTHING you have to get done and the decisions you have to make due to the life changes?. and suddenly you kind of have a mini FREAK OUT?? Well, I am there! Since I am a newlywed, I?m trying to figure out if it is smarter to file jointly or separately. I am weighing the pros and cons. House? Buy? My husband is adamant about buying?but I?d rather rent a Condo or house until we reach our goal of getting some debt down?? I don?t want to jump into anything permanent right now for a few other reasons. Daycare $$$$$! We have been saving, but is has been hard trying to save. Job - I work full time and may have to see if my job will be flexible and let me work maybe 32 hours instead of 40. I need the income and benefits. DS will be going to the 1st grade and will have to trade schools. Now not only will we have to pay daycare expenses, we will also have to pay for some type of after school programs since we work 9-5 and schools in this area are 8-3 or 9 to 2. Arrgh! I have to say, I am super excited about the changes, but I am scared at the same time and am hoping that everything from my job, our housing decisions, daycare/after school expenses, to DS?s school schedule works in my favor! Ok, mini vent over. I just need someone to tell me they are kind of freaking out too.. lol

skrichar

I have a mini-freak out about once a week I think it's normal with the HUGE changes we have coming up in June!!!

Future_mrs_nacho

I have big freak outs all the time. Especially about everything getting done in time, finding daycare, planning for leaving on maternity leave at work...

 Just thinking about it makes me freak out!

chyrstol06

I have both mini and big freak outs pretty much weekly. I'm a planner and so much of pregnancy and what comes along with it, is out of my control. It's a scary feeling. My DH tells me I need to enjoy my pregnancy more...I'm trying!

supermom83

Yes, I freak out all the time.  I'm a big picture kind of person so sometimes everything enters my mind all at once and I can't help but feel overwhelmed! What I try to do when that happens to me is sit back and try to break down what I'm freaking about and when I do that, I realize just how blessed I am to actually have those things to freak out about.

For instance, I'm worried about our condo/townhome (2bd, 1 bath) and if we should sell it and rent a bigger place or sell and buy or just stick it out and stay. Then I actually realize how freakin blessed I am that we actually have a beautiful and newly renovated home that we can afford, and I have the luxury of selling it or not, and I have so many options, so I try to make myself realize how silly it is for me to feel so upset over something that is such a blessing...if you know what I mean? It's the only way I can calm myself down.  

Another thing I worry about is adding another baby to the mix, the sleepless nights, how am I going to handle a toddler and newborn at home by myself while my husband is at work...ect. Then I remember my twins and how I lost them, how some people can never even have the blessing of getting pregnant, of having a healthy baby, of even having two kids....then it just shuts me up! lol. I realize how blessed I am and how I'd rather have these "problems" then not have them at all. 

Life is hard, and it's full of choices that we constantly second-guess ourselves about and it's full of trials that test our patience, sanity and bank-accounts! Being grown-up can sometimes suck! hehe. But you sound like a wonderfully blessed person yourself ) You're a newly-wed, have a beautiful little baby on the way and have a DS and a job that could be flexible and the option of buying a home...all things that are not available to everyone. I'm not trying to minimize your concerns over getting things in order, like seeing if you could work less hours, finding a new school for DS, finding and paying for daycare for baby (because you still have to do all those things anyway) but taking a step back and looking at how wonderful all those problems actually are will help you feel a little less freaked out. At least that's what I do! Hope I helped )

brobin01

supermom83:

Yes, I freak out all the time.  I'm a big picture kind of person so sometimes everything enters my mind all at once and I can't help but feel overwhelmed! What I try to do when that happens to me is sit back and try to break down what I'm freaking about and when I do that, I realize just how blessed I am to actually have those things to freak out about.

For instance, I'm worried about our condo/townhome (2bd, 1 bath) and if we should sell it and rent a bigger place or sell and buy or just stick it out and stay. Then I actually realize how freakin blessed I am that we actually have a beautiful and newly renovated home that we can afford, and I have the luxury of selling it or not, and I have so many options, so I try to make myself realize how silly it is for me to feel so upset over something that is such a blessing...if you know what I mean? It's the only way I can calm myself down.  

Another thing I worry about is adding another baby to the mix, the sleepless nights, how am I going to handle a toddler and newborn at home by myself while my husband is at work...ect. Then I remember my twins and how I lost them, how some people can never even have the blessing of getting pregnant, of having a healthy baby, of even having two kids....then it just shuts me up! lol. I realize how blessed I am and how I'd rather have these "problems" then not have them at all. 

Life is hard, and it's full of choices that we constantly second-guess ourselves about and it's full of trials that test our patience, sanity and bank-accounts! Being grown-up can sometimes suck! hehe. But you sound like a wonderfully blessed person yourself ) You're a newly-wed, have a beautiful little baby on the way and have a DS and a job that could be flexible and the option of buying a home...all things that are not available to everyone. I'm not trying to minimize your concerns over getting things in order, like seeing if you could work less hours, finding a new school for DS, finding and paying for daycare for baby (because you still have to do all those things anyway) but taking a step back and looking at how wonderful all those problems actually are will help you feel a little less freaked out. At least that's what I do! Hope I helped )

  You totally did!!

 

Amaya84

I'd say freakouts are pretty normal.

I've had some of my own, and I'm pretty much settled for the moment! What will happen when the lease on my apartment is over in September?  What if we have to move with a newborn?! I just got settled! And I'll be in school during that time too...and what about day care? And when should I plan the wedding for and....

Needless to say it happens to us all at some point. Even the most well off have freak out moments. Just try to shrug it off. Don't ignore it, but just realize you're just over stressing due to the pregnancy and you have more important things to worry about...Like that kind of pajamas to get the LO. 

CantWait2Be

Yeah I do the same thing. I'm a worrier.