Mourning A Loss

shannonrbarry

I am sorry to have to join this board of discussion, but I am so thankful that there is a community out there that can relate and encourage each other.  My husband and I just found out that we miscarried our first pregnancy.  I know this is a very common situation (especially with the first pregnancy), but I don't think it makes it any easier.  I believe life starts at conception and I am very sad today knowing that I lost my baby.

My doctor mentioned that I should wait for at least 3 normal periods before we start TTC again.  My best friend had a miscarriage and ended up waiting only for one normal period and then they actually conceived again.  They are currently expecting a healthy boy.  What are some of your recommendations and encouragment to get through this time?  My husband and I so badly want to be parents, but I am kind of scared of this happening again.  Any support and advice would be wonderful!  I am confident that God has a plan for us and that in His timing it will be right, but I am still just very sad.

dana1318a

I'm so sorry for your loss I don't think the fear of another loss will ever really go away for any of us, but I think for me, I knew I was ready to start TTC again when I was more hopeful that I would have my take home baby, than I was scared of another loss.

Give yourself time to grieve.  This is a very traumatic experience, and your heart (and body) need time to heal.  Focus on your marriage, and know that you will add to your little family soon.  ((hugs))

WifeyWynn0626

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a wonderful support group you've found here. For me, to get through the grieving process, I started a blog and just recently picked up the Zumba game for my PS3 move, they've both been helpful in getting me through these past few weeks. Also, I allowed myself to grieve. I cried when I needed to, yelled and got angry and cried all over again. I go Monday for my follow up appointment and plan to ask my Dr about TTC, but I know each situation is different.

MegMeg0913

I am so sorry honey ~hugs~  

Don't forget that you need time to heal mentally as well as physically.  Sometime the emotional scars take longer to heal. 

I hope that everything picks up for you darling, and if you want someone to talk to feel free to message me.  

~hugs~ 

lavril

I am so sorry for your loss!  We loss our first baby last week as well and it's such a horrible experience.  I'm sorry you had to go through this as well.  Another girl recommended the book Hannah's Hope.  I haven't read it, but I just received it in the mail and it looks good.  I think it's really important to give yourself the time to grieve like others have said.  Let yourself experience all the emotions and process them.  As far as TTC, my doc recommended 2 normal periods before we start trying again.