1 Day Post D&C

McGearStella · January 2011

Hi Everyone!

I was a member of the August birth board. On December 28th we saw our baby's heartbeat....SUPER strong. On January 4th I started experiencing some brown spotting and went to my doctor. The super strong heartbeat was gone.

I had a D&C yesterday. I'm pretty uncomfortable today. I'm also very sad. I've gone all day today without crying. Usually it comes when I get into bed at night.

This would have been our 3rd baby. We do plan on trying once we're cleared to. This is just really hard.

I understand that this probably happened because our baby could not have survived outside the womb with its abnormalities but DAMN this sucks!

I also have to say that I felt like something was wrong from the beginning. It was just a feeling I had.

I just wanted to introduce myself and tell my story a little bit!

LaurenB15 · January 2011

I am so sorry for your loss and welcome. Happy and hopeful thoughts for the future!

kmn3 · January 2011

So sorry for your loss. I also had a D&C yesterday. Hardest day of my life thus far Sad

luckylady55 · January 2011

I had my D & C monday...I too would have had an August baby, and this also would have been our third. I know this sucks but I got advice from a really good friend who lost a baby at 30 weeks. She told me that to be healthy again you need to feel it all, cry alot and talk alot. She said that its all going to be very surreal for awhile but to just take one day at a time and sometimes even one hour at a time. You can get your head wrapped around it but your heart just simply isn't there yet. I went back to work on Wednesday and for me it helped. Find what works for you but allow yourself to feel it all, we will both be ok.

clarks415 · January 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. And can I tell you this would have been my second child, I have a 3 yr old son. And from the beginning of this pregnancy I also had a bad feeling. It is weird but I didn't feel healthy, I just always felt like something was wrong. Everyone just told me every pregnancy is different, but I felt something else.

It sucks. The girls on here told me to just let myself feel how I feel w/o excuses or guilt. It was the best advice I have ever gotten. It explained exactly how my emotions floated up and down. I know its hard b/c u don't want to be upset in front of your other kids but it can be impossible. When I got upset in front of my son he was very comforting and supportive, not scared like I thought he'd be.

Just feel how you want without fighting it. Now that the D & C is over just focus on your emotional recovery. Each day it will get a little bit better.

WifeyWynn0626 · January 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. This board is an incredible support system of women who are actually going through what you are. The PP's are right. You just need to take it a day at a time, and let yourself grieve and feel your emotions without guilt. If you find it's hard to talk about it, I'd suggest starting a blog where you can get everything out, without needing a response.

Fallon621 · January 2011

Thanks for intruducing yourself and Welcome to the board, although im sad that you or any of us even have to be here. everything the PP's said is true! I know you will find support here, somtimes it's just comforting to know you are not alone.

LDW80 · January 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. Your story sounds like mine to a T.....well almost. I wa due 7/1 with what would have been our 3rd baby. I had "feelings" too from the beginning that something wasn't right. I spotted with this one for about 3 weeks (never did with my other 2 pregnancies) but thought I was in the clear when we went for our 1st appt. @ 9wks and saw our LO moving and a strong HB. Our 2nd appt. at 13wks...no HB. I had a D&C last week too. I keep saying the same thing you do....Damn, this sucks! We plan to try again as soon as we get green light. Hopefully we will all be pregnant with our take home babies very soon. Take care of yourself and if you ever need to talk you can PM me. ((hugs))