Not getting over it very well

MrsMeggieMac

We found out we were pregnant on Christmas, we have been trying to 2 years. It was the best Christmas of my life, followed by the worst New Years . I ended up in the E.R. on 12/29 and lost my baby at 5 weeks. 

Right after it happened I thought I would be okay, I was sad but still hopeful. Now a week later, I'm having trouble functioning normally. I'm snippy with everyone and just kind of not "caring" about a lot and I am SO tired.

Anyone find a good way to heal quicker? 

vitan

I am so sorry for your loss after waiting for so long.

I think you're going through the right process. This is all new to you and you shouldn't feel like you need to rush the healing process. It's been over a month since my loss and now I can smile and think of how blessed I was when I was pregnant. But for weeks I cried, I yelled, I avoided people. I just went through the motions.

You're not alone and you're not crazy for feeling what you're feeling. Stick around, the ladies here are extremely helpful. 

Fallon621

So sorry that you have to be here!  We all know what you are going throug and ther are no words that will really make you feel better. Just know that there is a lot of support here (even though things have been kind of slow the past few days) Know that just about anything you are feeling is "normal" I am just about month past mind and the past few days I noticed my self getting into the worste mood swing out of no where.  It will be a long process but you are NOT alone!

As for your your question, I dont think there is a "quick" way to heal.  You just have to feel the emotions, talk about if you want to (or dont) scream cry be selfish and just feel.  And in time very little by very little things will get better and easier to deal with.

SDbride31806

It sounds to me like you are being completely normal!  This is such a crappy situation that we are all in, and feeling snippy, emotional, up and down, tired, restless, etc etc. seems to me like normal coping mechanisms for this grief we are going through.

Its been 4 weeks since my miscarriage and I had a similar experience where right afterwards I kinda thought I would be ok, feeling hopeful.  But once I had to get back to work, i started to feel even worse.  I think the best thing is to let yourself feel sad...but also take action and treat yourself to something that you can find some enjoyment out of.  Last week I got a facial one day, then another day I had a very indulgent ice cream brownie sundae thing. 

 And as much as I get annoyed when my DH suggests that I should go outdoors and get some exercise (that it might make me feel better to enjoy some sunshine etc), in reality I do think it kinda helps...even though im pissed most of the way through the workout. 

Finally, just know that you arent alone out there.

npilcher506

I was in the hospital on New Years as well. There are moments I feel like I am okay, and then its like I'm going through it all over again. I hope that you are able to find some comfort in knowing others are doing the same thing. I guess we are all reacting "normally" to an awful situation. Best wishes to you!

luckylady55

I don't think there is any way to heal quicker, you have to allow yourself time to grieve.  I had a D&C Monday, for me it helped getting back to work and back into a routine.  I feel a little better every day although there are still moments that take my breath away. Today while teaching I had a moment, and I know those are going to happen, but I am just taking it one day at a time and even one hour at a time.  A friend of mine lost a baby that was just about full term, she has been so supportive and has helped me talk through a lot of my feelings.  I am so grateful to her for just letting me talk and for offering her experience to help me.  Be easy on yourself and don't try to force it, you will get there, we all will, and lean on your fellow bumpies, and friends.

WifeyWynn0626

All the ladies above are correct. What you're feeling is normal. Keep your support group around, let yourself grieve and if you need to, find a way to expel the emotions. I also started a blog and it was the best thing I could do. Instead of keeping all my emotions bottled in, I wrote it out. I don't think there really is an easy or quick way to get past it, you just need to take it day by day.

Fallon621

theresat858:

  *This weekend my mood was like PMS on steroids.* 

Described it perfect! This is exactly how I have felt all week too!

MrsMeggieMac

Thank you ladies, your words and the fact that you guys are just here is actually very comforting. I've never looked to online groups for anything, I'm certainly glad I have this time. I also decided to start drawing more, these kind of situations can be "muse" like if the energy is expelled correctly. 

Thank you again girls.