I hate having to lie...

jessican08

DH and I were just invited to our friends' daughter's 1st b-day party...they've known we've been TTC but we're not THAT close with them so they don't know the that we've been seeing an RE, etc. Plus this girl (the mother) got PG 2 months after her wedding with DD and got PG again on the first try with DS and is now due in March. So not only would I be surrounded by babies and small children, but I'm also guaranteed to see giant baby belly to boot.

I do love this couple (they're great people) and their daughter but I don't think I can go...the last 1st b-day party I went to was a disaster for me. I was LITERALLY the only one there without children or not PG and all anyone talked about of course was pregnancy, child birth, children, etc. I had a hard time including myself in any conversations and felt like an alien being there. I just hate having to make up excuses.

No real reason for posting this I guess except to vent a bit. I'm grouchy and tired of bleeding and cramping for the past week since my lap/period.

babystinkbreath

I think not going is prob for the better.  Maybe send a small gift if you feel guilty, but I wouldn't go either if i was you.  We have to say no sometimes to survive.

Bella2u07

I hate having to lie too, but sometimes protecting our emotional well being is the best thing to do.  I agree with babystinkbreath, send a small gift if it's bothering you too much.

 

missbeckreep

Lieing isnt fun :-/. Ive had to lie alot about occasions like this too, and my SIL is pregnant and i'm trying really really hard to deal with it, but i see in the future more lieing i will have to do.  When you try to tell the truth then people think your rude :-/. You cant win.  If only they could live 1 month in our lives and see......keep smiling, weve all here had to lie about those situations.

abbe19

Yep, yep, totally know where you are coming from. This is the story of my life now. Every party has children, babies and baby bellies at every angle. And you are so right that all they do is talk about children, babies and baby bellies. I had way too many beers on New Years Eve because I had absolutely nothing to add to the conversation because it was all about kids! So I just kept sipping away! So, I think staying away and putting yourself first is the best thing you can do for yourself. Sometimes, it just is too much and you deserve a respite from it all. 

Eriksgal

I wouldn't go.  I have never understood why people invite people without children to their kids bday party anyways.  Unless it is family or a BFF-no way am I going to subject myself to going to one of those-IF or not!!

DeputiesWife

I probably wouldnt go either.

FabulousMrs.P

I think you're making the right decision by not going. I know how hard it is to be the only one without kids or a child on the way at family/friend functions. Even when people are trying to be sensitive it hurts...especially when you don't have anything to add to the conversation because it is all about potty training or what bottles are the best.

You have to protect yourself right now...YOUR feelings are important! But I do understand...I've gotten tired of having to lie and say we have something else going on or I am working or out of town for these events.

babylove0511

i would not go unless it was family or a super close friend. i hate always being the odd ball out at these parties. i would just send a small gift. 

FutureMoutoux

(((((hugs))))) I'm sorry! I know how hard that can be. You have to do whats best for you!